Lots of questions but no answers

Life is full of surprises and when we cant find an answer to a question, we call it destiny. It is very clear she was mentally unstable. and also I feel however educated a person if the person is very sensitive he or she is going to suffer a lot.

 

Hope you and your family gets through this tough sad time.

 

Suicide is usually committed when someone is depressed. They can't think of others at that time, as they can't even be held responsible for themselves or their actions at that time. If they are good at hiding their true feelings sometimes loved ones can't make out they are depressed.

 

its very sad. A young girl take her life.... no body cant understand about life...

 

depression is something that is still to be given importance to in our society.... ppl put up happy faces but may have a sad personal life ....i truly pray for ur niece family in this tough time... 21 yrs and such a big decision....

 

Really sorry to hear this - have to cope up and recover from those realities that bite us hard as this.

Our society and family environment actually does not give room to exchange free views of individuals. This is the major issue and the individual's thought process is limited to ones own knowledge and experience, which is very minimal at these ages.

When one is forced to think only with in, this sort of leads to development of an inferiority complex, a fear for the unknown and left in a helpless state. There is actually none to have a transparent exchange of ideas or rather no freedom to express or explore. Reading psychology doesn't mean the individual is deemed fit enough to handle/analyse and derive right solutions.

Families should actually start interacting with each other and know each other better, so that such circumstances can be limited to a great extent.

 

So sorry to hear this. Cannot imagine the pain all of you will be going through.

Regarding your question - I think there was underlying severe depression. There was a thread by - @Gauri03 - on how depression needs to be treated and not ignored.

Thread:
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/s.../259796-no-depression-cant-simply-willed.html

 

my condolences. the aftermath of a suicide is very hard for the loved ones. especially when it is someone so young and seemingly full of life. many questions, many emotions and really hard to understand why it happened. sometimes it is very apparent what a person is going through- withdrawn, morose, unmotivated. and there are people, who on the surface it's really hard to tell what they are going through.

acute sensitivity and mood swings at particular ages are delicate points where a person may act on impulse, full grade depression is easier to recognize and treat. for her, it may have been the former. please don't feel that you failed her, it is clear that she was loved and appreciated with a supportive family. i can't imagine how devastated her parents must be. only time will heal. i wish you much strength and fortitude in this time of grief. God bless.

 

Sorry to hear about your loss. You are in shock naturally and it will take some time to come out of it. Although the why? why? question is instinctive you can never know what was really going on in her mind. Probably there were some reasons, maybe they will come out with time.

This kind of incident reinforces my belief that we must put more and more effort in actually communicating with the younger generation, be more accepting of them actively encourage them to confide in us about what is going on, and keep an open door policy in general...toooo many cases these days where the kid was normal, seemed fine and then suddenly one fine day all are in shock.