Am I thinking too much on converstion between husband and his female friend

Don't fight with him..Just have a talk regarding this hw you are feeling..

You are right..chatting till late night is not correct when u have wife and kid@home..

I suggest you sort out this matter ASAP..sooner is better always.

I have seen same kind of behavior with my husband... I used to fight a lot last 4 years..Lot means lot but that didn't give situation better and even told to that lady..still same..

 

Keep your DH more busy with son's activities - dont give him time to talk at least from home - tell him you need his help with some household chores and son's stuff ! Make him more eager to be home sooner, if he leaves at 7:00 pm, call at 7 and tell him what is waiting for him at home ;-)

Let him feel he is a dad and not only a husband (with all the fights and issues) !!

Right now with all the arguments and fights - inlaws and birthdays - he might have started to discuss his own problems with his colleague and they might have found some common issues (as that colleague also shares her inlaws problems) so the discussions may be getting more personal than necessary and being in close proximity doesnt help obviously!!

Try to get him to meet you for lunch for a few days, improve your relationship and bonding with him - if he is not in any kind of relationship with her, he will respond to your overtures !!!

If these dont work then you can think about confronting him - do plan and think properly how to confront lest you jeopardize your marriage unnecessarily on a false suspicion !!!

 

Why don't you let him know that you are not a big fan of this and it makes you uncomfortable. Ask him if things wetter other way around.

 

Actually, he should.
Ask him how he would feel if you sent similar messages to your colleagues too? Dont make it a huge fight , but let him know in strong words that you are not happy with this.
Do you meet this lady often? If yes, when you see her - just casually in a joking manner say 'Oh, he doesnt have time for us - he is always chatting with you ' or something like that. And laugh out loud. Just so that she gets the message that you notice it and are not very comfortable about it.

 

Dear OP,

I have seen your previous threads.. So otherwise, is your husabnd talkative in nature..
like someone who makes friends easily?

If not, then, I don't see why you shouldn't be worried about this one?

You need to get his attention diverted ASAP..

 

Hi Priyanka, im very sorry to hear whats happening in your marriage and confused too. Do you really think you might be overreacting? I think its clear that you dont, in fact i think you are a very calm even maybe too calm wife.

I wouldnt tell him that you read his whatsapp chats if you did so. But face him with what he did and make it clear its not normal. How much time he does spent with you and your kid? How was your marriage before she came into the picture? It sounds for me a bit like he is spending more time with chatting with her then with you which is clear cheating for me. Moreover I would never accept if another lady is discussing private things with my hubby and im not allowed to know what they are talking about (thats just me and i dont talk about sharing recipes i mean important stuffs). They make you the outsider to their world and it should be other side round. She shouldnt have the power to get his time and attention (in late night?!?!?!?!) and know she can push you away. You really need to step up here and face him.

Maybe you can plan a romantic weekend without kid to refresh your marriage a bit and check on the way wether he really will keep contact with her?
Or you take the kid with you for a nice family time?

Depending on how that weekend turns out decide how you face him.
If you realise in the meantime that she is in chat or stands outside to talk to him find some excuse to get him busy and check wether he drops her to give all attention to you.
If possible show up at his working place for a surprise lunch and see wether he will ask her to join in or let her go.

All these are indicators to check on whats going on with him. The streightest way is just to simply ask him.. but the others are a good source of information too

 

oh dear i know how it feels, when DH spends more time though virtually with his female colleagues...I think you can play it lightly like...you invite the gal and her husband and casually you say while serving food to everyone having the female , her husband and ur DH around...that "Its rare to find a colleague with whom you talk everything...and you can say on seeing my DH and your wife (female colleague) it reminds me of my school / college days when i use to discuss out my problems and talks with my best friends but they were gal... I never knew my DH can talk so much to lengths....looks like they are lost siblings met in office hehehehehe and laugh out, Also you can add that you and ur DH are so much in love and you keep sharing love stories to the female and her husband" with this it will get clear if gal's husband knows abt her chatting addiction with ur DH or not... All the best...make sure you spend lot of time with your DH , dont give him time to chat with that female...rather you occupy him with yourself...ALSO if you invite them or you happen to visit them....play a couple game....we usually play when my husband, his cousin brothers and their wives meets up... like 'TELL LIKES & DISLIKES Of your SPOUSE' good chance for you to say what you dislike 'YOU CAN SAY - ' I dislike that my DH spends more time over whats App rather than spending with me...I want my DH to come home soon to have romantic time together'' say whatever you can think of...try if you can spice it up.....and for LIKES you can SAY what you LIKE THE MOST AND CAN BRING FIRE IN THE OIL Burning at Female ends :mrgreen:

ALL THE BEST !! In case you cannot invite them....simply call that female talk casually with her and say that how much you dislike your DH being super busy over internet and how much you feel like cursing or getting angry over ppl with whom he chats'......Oooofff I feel like screaming out to that lady ...... I myself is working wife, with no kids still I don't manage to get any time to even reply to my Friends or family's msgs many a times that of my parents I wonder how she manages to get so much time to chat.....say something similar to your DH too...and tell you DH....gossiping is good but Over gossiping and to depriving wife from the right full attention and time of hubby is not good....Tell him will he be ok if you do the same to him? neglecting him and talking to some male colleague of urs every now and then?

Ask him to GROW UP ... FULL STOP