Jewellery and Sari

On Friday we had a pooja at home for Vijayadashami. MIL asked if she could wear a necklace that I had. I had no issues so gave it to her for the occasion. About an hour before the function, I was getting ready for a shower, and kept my Sari out on my bed. It was my wedding sari. She has always had her eyes on it and for the past so many years has been dropping hints that it is the only colour she does not have and would love nothing more than to get the exact same sari.

She saw the sari and told me to choose another one, since she would like to wear it that evening. Her reasoning? Nobody has seen her wearing the sari, and it looks good on photos, hence she wanted to wear it. I point blank said no. Told her I had already decided on that, and was not changing my mind.

That night somebody commented on the necklace. She said "O this is Deepa's. Her father gave it to her, its just American Diamonds. I have a similar necklace in Chennai, but my husband bought me one with real diamonds"

Then later that night she tells me "Anyway, you will get my diamonds. I can barely wear them in Chennai because of fear of theft, so let me take this necklace with me and when you come next time you can take my diamonds" I replied that it was a gift for my 10th anniversary from my father. She said that it was not real diamonds, so why was I not willing to exchange for real diamonds. To that I told her that even if it was not real gold, and not real diamonds, and not real anything, it was from my parents. As a token of their love. They did for me what they could afford to do.

She never talked to me all weekend (no regrets there for me)

 

YM - She asked to wear my wedding sari for a wedding 2 weeks after my wedding... so I have had practice in saying no