I am BLAMED for Everything

Hi
I did inter community love marriage. my husband in younger one in his family so we waited for his elder brother to get married. as soon proposing me my husband told about me to his mom and i also knew his mom before our wedding. i knew my MIL 7years before wedding. she liked me and gave green flag . she went on to say that she dint like girls of their community!!!! it took 2years to convince my family. but what had happened was my husband elder brother married six months earlier than us and six month was his before marriage period. since my husband elder brother got engaged my MIL started mis behaving with me, she would say she does not like love marriage but what to do .... days went by... when it came to our wedding where my parents agreed for the wedding my MIL refused and not agreeing for wedding but this time my husband said i am marrying her then without choice she came for the wedding but she along with my Co-Sis behaved the worst with my mom, whenver we went for shopping they both would walk 100 ft away from us. on the wedding my mom was standing in the side all alone and my mil would carry my CO sis everywhere. infact for food also she did not call my mom. so many insulting incidents had happened that i really felt why did i do love marriage.

well my co sister never talked to me its been 5years of her wedding all she would talk hi hello and only once or twice a year.
she would talk to me when people are around and she had no choice but she would talk to my husband for hours and give me wrong information and we both fight.
My husband elder brother is a big bully. he would bully me every time and i stopped talking to him after 3-4 bully incidents.my BIL did not have job and had business but he wanted to become pilot!!!!! so my husband has funded all his education including some of his gold for his wedding as well. he became pilot and got job after 4 years of his mairrage and we spent all our savings on his pilot course including his honeymoon and did not plan baby also since we had expenses.

now he is pilot earns in lakhs. problem is since he became pilot he stopped talking with my hubby they do not share anything with us. once he called said mom wants us to buy a house and he needs 70-80lakhs , and ya after becoming pilot he dint even share his uniform picture with us. this had hurt my hubby a lot and he said i don't have money and if you could give me some money from our joint share (joint business along with his uncle and some properties in village) i also can buy a house.... he fought nicely...he went on to say that my husband dint do anything for him

so now my husband is not talking with any of them as my MIL says he is the worst son, brother and i am the worst DIl . This had hurt my husband a lot and he is not taking their call at all....

Now my MIl once fought with my parents that i have changed her son and i am the cause of their family breaking. i did nothing still she blames me for everything.
FYI nobody in my husband family ever talked with me ... my MIL would talk if she wants to bad mouth CO sister and i was so naive that i poured my heart to her about my co sister behavior with me now she taking all those things.
my husband decided to cut all cords and very very heart broken and so do i ...and they are putting pressure on my parents.... my co sister was pregnant in between and they informed only my husband they dont share anything with me and corner me all the time. we have spent all our savings on them postponed baby but they once got settled having nice time and we are still suffering even after he got job. we stay in US and my mil visited us in 2012 and she made my life horrible she tortured so much that i had suicidal thoughts when she was here.... my husband never supported me during her stay and would believe all her lies that time... she went to the extent that she had problems in my husband sleeping with me!!!!!! she never liked if room lights were on!!!!!! i really wanted to either break the marriage or commit suicide seeing my husband changed behavior but i dint do any of it as i had a hope that my husband is a good person its just that he is being manipulated and at last after seeing his brother true face he became my old boy friend again and said sorry for all his behavior ....
i really hate them now but dont know what to do.... my parents are forcing me to become friends with in-laws. (my MIL and BIl questioned my character, integrity everything previously that was the reason for my suicidal thoughts) and i also personally dont want any relation with them after all these!!!! but everyone have become heros and i am villain

 

Thanks for your responses..... but big problem now is they all the time put my parents in between.... they are pressurizing me through my parents.... they say my parents that i have to say my husband to calm down and talk again with them else people will bad mouth me..... it is my duty to patch these people as a DIL and my parents duty to tell me to handle things maturely my husband needs apology from his elder brother (he bullied my husband as well) he needs to know why he behaves like this...... he wants face to face confrontation but his elder brother did not call us but says to everyone that mu husband is behaving indifferently and not even answering his call and is not ready to sort out things.... when my husband said he never called my MIL says my husband is lying and disgraceful!!!!! my co sister dont talk to me its 5 yrs and nobody seems to even think that she is wrong and rude towards me, where we both have spend everything for their well being.....