Abnormal MIL Behaviour

I think it's not ok.may be when he was single thy r used to such things?.but if you ask me I would say most "MEN" shy out after certain age to stand with only undies in front of parents.it is weird . you should ask your hubby may be he used to change with mom's presence. He may not know then this is not ok since parents wouldn't have advised him.giving wicked smile is cheap at that moment at that time. Girl you have a lot of work do.

 

Dear PDIL,

It's funny that my h came in undies infront of his mom infact to the kitchen, i did ask him 'don't you feel shy?'. He said, ' no, i don't and i have seen my uncles do this too' (with his Grandma). I just left it there, because, i dont care if he walks in undies around the house neither i think too much after having my daughter. So, having MIL didnt seem to be causing any harm.

I just wouldn't read between lines in a situation like this. Your MIL may not be trying to prove a point, it's just them. You cannot control or should control what happens between your husband and his mom.
I wouldnt walk half naked in front of my dad or my MIL or anybody except my mom, husband and daughter.

Take a chill pill...

 

OP- yes it is very weird for a mother not to respect boundaries of her adult son. It is not just weird but also shameful.

What is shocking is that many people find this normal. So I ask- would those that find it normal walk around in your underwear in front of your father?

 

I am not sure anyone should be walking around in undies in front of ANYONE other than their spouse. Even with kids, after they are more than 2-3 yrs old - we should start teaching them about privacy and boundaries. I find it weird that your husband does not find it weird.

 

Even I find it odd.exactly my thoughts.i don't think i will be ok with it.we should teach kids about privacy and stuff.even if it is a boy child.a brother ccan't walk in undies especially if there is a sister at home .We teach girl children about clothing appropriate and privacy but not boys.
Awkward.

 

I guess, you have to think of it from the perspective of individual or the prevailing practice. I used to visit my GPs village and the people of the village take bath in the nearby river, women will wear their petticoat around them as a swimsuit and men will be in underwear.

I have also observed during my travel around India in some states it's just blouse and skirt without dupatta. A person from a particular region may find it weird but it's not weird for them.

I don't want to confuse perversion with what one feels weird.

To OP's point, I just want to put her mind to rest that the MIL may not have the intention of implying anything to her by just being in that room. I don't want her to confuse a situation like this to a power struggle.