Whose mistake?

Am married for 2 and 1/2 yrs now. Have a 1 yr old boy whose first birthday is tomorrow. I have been waiting for this day since a long time. Planned a lot for a big party. But everything is going in vain as me and hubby are angry on each other due to small issue and kept our faces since 2 days. Both set of parents are at home. None of them are happy seeing us like this. The reason for fight-
i was scolding a photographer who gave 4 similar photos after a photoshoot of our baby. He started supporting her and talking in a loud tone which irritated me a lot. I just said, "ok dont shout". Thats it. He became angry went to office without breakfast, talking only formally. I tried to convince him twice. But no use. I cried yestday night. Then only he came to me which after 2 days. I was so pissed off that i said il be going to my moms place after bday. He didnt say a word.
This has been his nature. He says something to me. If i feel bad he gets angry. If i say something, he gets angry. He goes into silent mode for more than 2 days for every small thing. But i believe that we should forget everything before going to bed. He doesnt like even if i convince him. He never comes to me to convince. Everytime we have bigfights becoz of his silent treatment. He promised me many times that he will become normal the same day. But no change since 2 yrs. he has so much ego problem.
He feels that i blame him for everything. Why cant i adjust knowing him. Why cant i understand him? I tried lot of times to adjust. I keept quiet for few days. But all the incidents keep piling inside me and i burst on a day . And he also never understands me. He used to like me talking before marriage. Now he gets irritated if i initiate a talk. He doesnt like me getting confused for every decision. He teases me jokingly but sometimes beyond the limit.Am really angry and pissed off right now thinking all this. Am anyhow going to hostel after 15 days for exam preparation, so thought of going to moms house now itself. Planning to avoid him completely, give him the same silent treatment for lifelong even after my exam. Stay just like roommates becoz once we become normal, laugh make jokes, suddenly some incident happens and he again goes into silent mode which i cant bare again.
Am i correct in thinking like this? Or should i adjust like my parents said? Am i making small issue big or is it the right way to make him understand my pain?
please make me understand whose mistake in this situation.

 

Sgbv
I have done the same thing you said many times. But it has become a habit for him. He is repeating it everytime for very silly issues also. Am unable to forgive him now becoz he is doing this during this time which is very important to me. He has spoiled it completely

 

Ragini
may be immature. Sometimes i feel may be am thinking too much. But when the situation happens, its really difficult to control ourselves. When i see my baby, i really feel bad but seeing his actions i end up feeling miserable. He shouted on his mother. She is also not happy. He is not calling close relatives for bday becz of small issues between them. So noone is happy right now. He is not interested in parties, bdays, celebrations.
but this is our baby's bday even now he is behaving like this

 

Denni. The incident happened day before yestday. That day evening, i hugged him said take it light. He said hmmm no response no hugging back. He sd its uneasy for me can you remove your hands. He was leaning on the bed then. I just went away. I asked him to call few relatives as mil is pesturing me. He said i will call my family you think about your family. I just kept silent. Yestday he picked me from parlour. He was silent throughtout the ride. I said its los bday. Atleast now we should be happy . Why dont you forget every thing. He kept mum. I cried then in the car only. In the night , he came to me but i was pissed off and angry, so i said i will go to my moms place.
It is me who apologises everytime even though not my mistake. He comes to me only when i cry that too a lot of crying. Otherwise he doesnt bother.