What should i say-urgent help plsss

I second Yellowmango given your circumstances. Why does the responsibility have to devolve to you when there are family members with whom they have a better rapport ?

 

Let ur sil and co sil take care of her.. Let your hubby comes to you.

 

I would also say no as since ur partner did so mch wrong to u then its needed attention on that matter first then the MIL case.. there could be many other family members and let them handle it ..

 

If I were you, I wouldn't have even visited that woman in the hospital. Yes, I had done the same when my problems were not resolved in the past. Call me cold hearted person, but frankly I don't know how to act. If there is no pure love, but just the heart full of hatred, why bother to pay a visit.

Now that you have visited them. They have no mercy on you. They have expected more from you instead of being nice with you. If you serve them, by losing your job, patience and everything, they would still expect more from you. But they would never drop a pin to give you some peace.

 

Hi:
I think there are only two imp. points here.
1. Your Husband: Do you really feel like continuing relation with him irrespective of the issue involved because it is he you are going to spend rest of your life with.
2. Your Career: How important is your career to you? You can move with them and hire a maid or nurse to take care of your MIL but eventually things are will take toll on your career as well. Your husband's attitude towards your career also matters a lot.

Suggestion: If you think that you want to continue living with your husband and relation can be given some more time, please do it particularly if they let you pursue your career also.
Ask them expectations from you given your new situation (new job). Tell them you have career obligations that you won't like to compromise with while you will do whatever you can to help your MIL / family. They will have to hire a help / nurse to take care of your MIL.
If you think that your husband is really very nice, then you may have to make compromise with your career.

Separation / divorce etc. don't always have to be a bad experience. Parting ways can also be done in a dignified and peaceful manner.

Remember you can never be held responsible or there is no need to feel guilty if you communicate your position clearly enough.
Bottom line is that whether they want you back as a respectable member of their family or just a substitute for a nurse or maid to take care of the MIL.

 

Dear op...also please remember that their need for you right now is temporary. Your mil is losing her toe...she will get better soon. They may not need you after that.Think about this before you take any decision.

 

Dear Swapna Sister

Be brave.

I wish to re-iterate a point which I have been telling in almost all the relationship posts. Divorce is not a dirty word.

Is your situation now in your parents place better than being divorced?
Your husband doesn't even have the courtesy to get up and talk to you when you visit his mom. How can anyone ask you to live with him?

He doesn't deserve any mercy. It would be really nice of you to ask you SIL, BIL and Co-sis to get out of your house. Their mother has been abusive towards you and you have no reason to forgive her. Her son himself is not bothered to come and beg you to patch up, what importance does the visit of these people play in improving your relationship??


Just give a damn about your MILs health and just move on. Concentrate on your job and be successful in career.

Sorry if I hurt you.