Unable to keep Wife happy. Requesting solution.

Woman who get satisfied sexually may become aggressive out of frustration. I don't know what exactly is your problem but there ways to satisfy your wife even with erectile dysfunction or even with impotence problem. I cannot get too graphic here. I believe you want to save your marriage and this sexual problem is causing rift to your marriage. You can always get stuffs from sex shop. I think instead of asking your wife to have affair with another man why don't you get creative and make her happy.

Hope this helps

 

@Troll... come on make your story more spicy..

"Last month I went to a doctor in dubai and he said I should allow her to get intimate with other men and I am offering my services for FREE"...

 

Er ramesh,
From ur post (assuming it as real) one thing i can able to perceive is that, there is a lack of proper communication between u and ur DW. Satisfying a partner is not a very big deal if u take out your time and spend effectively with her to know her likes and dislikes. Problem with many brothers are that they think their wife only in the bed. Kindly understand they are not machines that u can switch on or off only in the bed with out giving due importance, love, affection, emotional support and sense of belonging to them before and after bed.
UR DW watching **** or starring at other men in front of u is a not a crime and it is a very natural one exhibited and expressed by a human.Develop an instinct with in u and resolve to make ur wife happy by any means. if ur really willing to make her happy u will get ideas automatically.
Out of my little knowledge which i gained out of my successful and exiting married life for the past eight years i can say that taking the partners for granted is the biggest enemy to the relationship. Before marriage there is an insecurity so we try a lot in understanding each other and impressing each other but marriage gives social and legal security as result our insecurity goes off and start taking our partners for granted. Kindly spend lot of time with ur partner in understanding their need and introspect ur self that what you have missed out in that and go ahead and have a rocking life.

 

Dear Mr Ramesh. Firstly have you identified your orientation. Are you inclined to men or woman. Look deep inside of you. I am myself in similar situation but thats because my husband is not interested in woman. Its good you atleast have a baby and that child would keep you bonded together but for a woman its very traumatizing if her man does not give her what she deserves. Intimacy is important in marriage and its right of an Individual.


Intimacy is about being emotionally close to your partner, about being able to let your guard down, and let him or her know how you really feel. Intimacy is also about being able to accept and share in your partner's feelings, about being there when he/she wants to let their defences down.

To be able to share our 'inner-world' with a partner we love, and to be able to share our partner's experiences, is one of the most rewarding aspects of a relationship.

Intimacy often doesn't need words, but being able to put feelings and experiences into words makes intimacy more likely to occur. Intimacy involves being able to share the whole range of feelings and experiences we have as human beings - pain and sadness, as well as happiness and love.

Most of us, however, find it easier to share some types of feelings than others. For example, are you and your partner able to let each other know how you feel about each other?

Saying 'I love you' is important. Assuming your partner knows about your love because of the way you behave is usually not enough.

How do you feel when you are sad, a little depressed, in need of some comforting and reassurance? Are you able to let yourself be dependent and to receive some nurturing? Is this balanced in your relationship, or is one partner the 'strong one' who never needs to show any vulnerability? If so, is this really how you want things to be in your relationship?
How do you feel about yourself? - when you've taken a bit of a knock and are feeling small and 'put down', or when you've achieved something that makes you feel good about yourself.
How do you feel about sex? - what you like and don't like in your love-making, and about how your sexual relationship could be made more enjoyable for you.
Do you really know what your partner thinks and feels, or do you have to guess and 'mind-read?' Are you able to be open with your partner, or do you feel that your partner would not be able to accept some of your feelings?

 

Its a very long time after your marriage I agree. But you should think with cold mind of what is coming ahead, the past may not continue to future. Things that you thought were in your control may not remain the same. Its time for you do deeper interospection and think, because i see this is turning point of your life. If yo do not take proper steps here your life could be doomed and this may extend to your social sphere too.

If you think you have tried enough and cant find a solution I think the doctors advice is right (i am sure most will disagree) you should allow your wife to indulge with other men . Talk with her what she feels about it. initially women are shy and may refuse but try to enter her mind and find out, so that you could be in control of the situation rather than situatioin being in control of you. Think with cold mind. You need to take strong steps because I am sure your wife is already searching for someone.

 

First of all, I feel this is a genuine post with a real problem. I know of issues like that within my circle itself. You are too young to go out of 'business' yet! There is no perfect solution but you may try the following:
If it is a medical situation, there sure are lot of treatments available. You just need to consult the right doctor.
Try spending some private time together (like both of you can go for short cruise or something like that leaving your kid behind)
Intimacy is not just about getting physical. Focus and spend time on foreplay and activities that mayn't require you necessarily to get physical while affording satisfaction to your partner. Let me tell you that there are lot of medical aids and 'devices' available to make your partner really happy. You just need open mindset.

At a place like water park, men staring at women or vice-versa would be normal, I suppose. Most men (and I suppose women too) watch pornography just out of curiosity. WhatsApp has already become a favorite platform for forwarding short **** clips. I know of female friends who confess having watched them. If someone is not too deeply into it, it shouldn't be a cause of concern.

If you like a female to be dressed or presented in some specific style for you to get excited, could you discuss with your wife and request her to 'play' the role. It might appear odd initially but it works. You need plenty of time for each other.

And I'm not surprised what doctor suggested to you. Some of them are known to do that as well. Maybe he understood your situation better or didn't understand it at all!

Finally time for introspection. Are you having it with someone else? I'm not saying that you are but if you are, you yourself are a part of the problem and solution too. Do you fantasize and engage into self gratification too much. That again would be a problem.
Get creative and open minded. This won't appear to be a big problem.

 

the problem of society is that when men false in the problems against women the ppl who supports and
helps are less saying that the men is mad or making stories but only when women in that situation
then all believes .. but the problems of this kind do exists in the society ..

dear friend you can have a good counselling and sure your problems will be solved ..looks like u need
support and motivation which can be done with ur partner ...

 

It is fairly normal that your wife is disappointed in her marriage life, thus she has become very aggressive, stressed and upset about it off late.

It is understandable that she views **** sites. It is also understandable that she started starting at other men. Well, she may have done it just like that, or may be she is in the process of going a step ahead of her border. I mean to the border line of looking for an EMA to satisfy her sexual desire, which has never been satisfied in the past.

She may have been tolerable in the past, but you can't expect her to be the same forever.

Love and sex need to be balanced in a happy marriage. There are some women, they have incredibly high sexual urge than men. A normal woman in your wife's shoes would become upset naturally. In case if she is one with high sexual drive, it can lead to serious damage to the marriage.

Just that you both are not a perfect match.

Go to repeated therapies, change your doctor. Above all, do this act to satisfy your wife and also to save your marriage. If you really love her, you can do this regardless of your willingness. Many women do that for their husbands!

Take her to psychological counselling, and other therapies, if she is in high tension about this.

Do openly talk to her. Give her other compliments. Satisfy her other desires. Life is not all about sex.

In a polygamist country, I don't doubt such a doctor who advised your wife to find another partner. But I assume, he said it jokingly.