Divorce is not a dirty word!

men or women becomes a divorcee not by choice. Situations and circumstances lead to that state.

 

Yes! The word D is so bad-people will rather stay stuck in a bad marriage.Divorcees are seen still as some social stigma even below widows/widowers, more so if it is a woman.Dont know how the perception is abroad but here still people are narrow minded as regards to divorces however mitigating circumstances are women are supposed to put up with their better halves.Its another thing that divorces are also on the rise esp amongst both working couples.

 

Good story about that strong woman OP, I guess she can close the loop by getting out of that invisible relation(of Marriage tag) and laugh even of whole hearted.

 

IMO, if she doesn't have any other man in her life and if she doesn't want an alimony, living separately is good enough. Why would she need a divorce?

 

Depends on one's perception. I am happily divorced and would rather be a divorcee than stuck up in a bad marriage. If the woman is confident and keep her head up, no one can make her feel miserable or less in any regard. As Deepak Chopra says:
"I am totally independent of the good or bad opinion of others.I am beneath no one, and no one is beneath me.
I am fearless in the face of all challenges."
My ex never hit me (well, he couldn't because I hold his hand) but for me that was not enough to stay in a bad marriage.

 

There is a big difference between "good enough" and "great". She feels great without him it seems. Not to forget, without divorce she is still legally bound to this man. If she is happy without this man in her life, then why she should stay married?

 

I think she likes the man...but not enuf to stay with him 24/7/365 with micro management around her and without a job.

Looks like she is happy with the set up now...good for her.

And yes,divorce is like belittling your farthest relative whom you never even met...irony

 

She may be just hanging on to the marriage for the sake of her son and sometimes, people are more comfortable with the Devil they know vs. the Devil they don't know. Although she might realize her marriage with is bad, but not bad enough, in her opinion, to justify a divorce plus she's probably at the point where she's exploring life on her own post marriage to rediscover herself and what she wants at this point in her life. If her husband is okay with this without ending the marriage, it might be what makes her happy. She has no guarantee or might fear that if she leaves him, there will be a lot of pressures, a lot of paperwork and who knows, maybe she thinks all men are like that.

Anyway, trust her to be the best judge of her situation and support her as she needs It's great that she's trying to regain her independence, has removed herself from an awful situation and looks to herself to be happy. Maybe in time, either the distance will help their marriage (husband might miss his family and want to improve his relationship with her) or maybe it will be just the trigger she needs to move on and find a healthier relationship when she's ready.