Husband's Wiered Habbit

if the emphasis is always on undergarments and urging posters to share their reaction... benefit the doubt.

 

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I might be the odd one out in this but I think that's actually kind of awesome. Look at the bright side: if he's any good at it, you have an extra pair of hands to help dress you in your finest.

But honestly, don't shun him and most importantly don't make assumptions. It could even have been something he tried out of sheer curiosity (no pun intended). Talk to him, trust him and let him share what he was doing or thinking. Be approachable and listen to him quietly without jumping to conclusions or judgement. That's the least you can do!

 

Maybe you should give him a chance to talk? He may have answers to your questions.

 

Please give him a chance to explain.

 

Is this what a "Tomgirl" behavior is?

I have heard/read many women identify themselves as "Tomboys". No one looks at these Tomboys with disdain or anything like that. Even their male spouses don't seem to question their orientation.

So what if a man tries to dress up like a girl? Is it different from being a "Tomboy"?

 

As someone said, he would have done that to surprise you. We never felt bad to wear jeans with tshirts or shirts even tough it is mans thing but we felt bad when vice versa happens. Please talk with him and do understand his feeling instead of moving away from him. Moving away is just a escapism and handling things will make you stronger rather than moving away.
So before you judge, discuss with your DH and if you feel that he should visit psychiatrist, take him to good psychiatrist.

 

DEar OP....Cross dressing does not make a person gay.Do talk to him .Let him seek help if he needs .If you need counselling....you do that.

If he can change ...good for you.
If he can't......then you have to see how you feel about it. Does this make him less manly in your eyes?If it is any help....Arjun (from Mahabharat )dressed as a woman for a long time(due to circumstances)and he was the manliest of men.If it does not make any difference to his conduct physically and emotionally....you may be able to live with this .It is easier said than done....so all the best.

 

Hi,

Please give your husband a chance to explain himself... before jumping to any conclusion. Most misunderstandings arise due to lack of communication... So hear out what he has to say and then based on it you can take logical steps.

You can just approach him and say what you have seen and say that you don't know what to make of it and would like to hear his side of the story.

Talk to him please... before making assumptions or freaking out... He might just have been curious or he may be into cross-dressing. No way to know unless YOU speak to HIM.