Divorcing a caring, loving spouse

Yes it is!!
Check below thread. Rihana always gets ideas from other threads.

http://www.indusladies.com/forums/married-life/244612-just-a-vent-2.html#post3124774

 

Reminded me of Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna

 

Irrespective of whether the marriage is a happy/unhappy marriage, if a person has an option (with or without kids as long as complications are well taken care of), the person should leave the marriage if they have found a new love and should pursue their own happiness.

In US, i have seen many Caucasian couples part ways and have started living their own life paths, yet jointing fulfilling all the responsibilities of parents (caring, taking vacations (single parent + Kids), helping with education fees).

On screen, i think this was seen in Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna

In real life in India, a wife of a famous singer married his music teacher (he used to come to house to teach her music). The music teacher is also a famous singer now and the couple have sung in shows, albums, movies. The famous singer eventually remarried.

 

Divorce is a murder of marriage
Divorce is a murder of one or both the parties (unless both of them are happy about it)
[h=2]Divorcing a caring, loving spouse is nothing but murdering the spouse. Moral less act. Marriage is a commitment. There are many men/women (in this world) superior as well as inferior to our spouse. Marriage is a commitment to live with the spouse with what they have.[/h]

 

I think starting a new thread is always better so that we can have more focused discussion on ideology without confusing others (who join in late and have difficulty following what is going on). Also, it is unfair to that OP as to his/her query gets put on back burner.

 

in life we may see many passing clouds that doesnt mean we will have to run behind each of them. we should stick to our feet and watch them pass gracefully, thats what will make you a valuable person who will be respected and looked up by your next generation.

PS: this is just MHO

 

:exactly:

If the marraige is a happy one, and spouse a loving and caring one- what could be the reason for resentment??

Anything less than/other than "in sickness and health till death do us part" I would consider failure of conscience.

 

If having a loving/caring spouse does not satiate one's thirst for happiness then nothing will. IMO, happiness is a mirage that most of us chase without realizing that happiness comes from within. When we seek happiness from external sources we become dependent on them which further sows the seeds of unhappiness in the long term.

Unless there is non-stop physical/verbal/emotional abuse in a marriage I'd always recommend a couple to work hard at their issues because no matter how good a spouse is, unless one works at his/her marriage, happiness will always remain elusive.

Moral of the Story: Happiness,like money, has to be earned by doing the right things (following one's conscience). It does not grow on trees!

 

Every person has a set of needs, that perhaps also change and evolve over time.
Its unrealistic to imagine that one person , your spouse, could possibly meet all your itellectual and emotional needs, share all your passions and interests.
Thats why most people have 'a life' outside of the marriage, and spouse and kids. Thats why they have friends, colleagues, confidantes, all of whom with they share some bits of our various interests, and who fulfill different needs to different extents.
If all is well in your marriage, you and your spouse share the same fundamental values, share some interests that brought you together , your spouse fulfills a large number of your needs , you would like spending time with them, and in general are happier with them , than without them.

In your example, I am at all suggesting that B stay in the marriage if she is not happy, but more that if B is unhappy in the marriage and wants to leave A , than the reasons for this are probably a lot deeper than "not sharing / understanding her art and her passion for it"