Happy Children's Day to All The Husbands

anuram09 · Nov 15, 2013

mademydaysmiley
This post made my day...
aahhhh !!!!!!!!!!!!!:biglaugh

DramaQueen · Nov 15, 2013

Hyral said: ↑

Lol, very true...we might also react way our DH is reacting currently...just we arent in this situation yet...so dont know its after effects lol...between very soon such a similar show is gonna start on [V] channel where they are showing...such creative ideas of guy marrying a gal and leaving his home for gal's home and tag line of show is ' Jab tak hadd paar nahi karoge tab tak haq kaise milega' lol in english it means 'Unless you break the rule , how will you get the right? ' ;-) am looking forward to that show.
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hey i didnt know about this show!! hahaha will have to watch and show it to the relevant people in my house too

I have told my DH couple of times earlier that Indian husbands should be made to stay with their in laws for 2 years minimum.. tab akal aayegi..

peet1983 · Nov 15, 2013

DramaQueen said: ↑

I have told my DH couple of times earlier that Indian husbands should be made to stay with their in laws for 2 years minimum.. tab akal aayegi..
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But that time you will in the hot seat..not him

ushae · Nov 15, 2013

DramaQueen said: ↑

Here's wishing all the Indian Husbands world over a very happy children's day because they love to live with their mothers even after marriage:bang ..
It's the same mother they'll lie to ,to spend time with their girlfriends but once married, they need their mother more than ever and even more than their wife!!waitingsmiley

Let's feed them cerelac today to celebrate the ocassionlaugh1smiley
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Hope your son also will get such greeting

Radhai · Nov 15, 2013

peet1983 said: ↑

Can someone imagine, How will be the situation if the system is like that Men marries a women and he stays with her family. Will she protect her DH from IL's attack and do whatever he wants from her house?
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Nandita.. Nandita.. Nandita..
[insert any of her post here]

Rihana · Nov 15, 2013

indianguy2013 said: ↑

Will you be okay if your son, after getting married , communicates very less with you............stops consulting you in taking important decisions..........gives utmost importance to what his wife says only...........does every thing directly and indirectly to show that his wife is the only one woman in his life and his mother matters least to him.

Expecting yourself (wife) to become the number one woman in his life and expecting him to sideline his mother ..........and make her(mother) as the no. 2 woman.......as soon as the marriage takes place......... is a wishful and whimsical desire.
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I am replacing son with daughter, husband with wife and so on in the above text:

Will you be okay if your daughter, after getting married , communicates very less with you............stops consulting you in taking important decisions..........gives utmost importance to what her husband says only...........does every thing directly and indirectly to show that her husband is the only one man/person in her life and his father/mother matters least to him.

Expecting yourself (husband) to become the number one man in her life and expecting her to sideline her father/mother ..........and make her parents as the no. 2 woman.......as soon as the marriage takes place......... is a wishful and whimsical desire.

Answer: I hope my daughter does make her husband the number one person in her life, relies most on his judgement for important decisions, informs me about decisions only if needed, and solicits my advice only if needed. I hope she consciously shows her husband he is the numero uno in her life. I would hope to become no. 2 or lower in her life as she flies the nest, grows into an adult, has her own family, friends, commitments, routines. I would also hope she knows I am always there for her, unconditionally. I would hope I've brought her up with the values and love that make her keep in touch with me without the need for guilt trips or emotional blackmail.

I hope the same for my son.

- Ideal Future MIL.

Swasha · Nov 15, 2013

Rihana...Loved your Post...

Absum · Nov 15, 2013

indianguy2013 said: ↑

Expecting yourself (wife) to become the number one woman in his life and expecting him to sideline his mother ..........and make her(mother) as the no. 2 woman.......as soon as the marriage takes place......... is a wishful and whimsical desire.
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I think this paragraph above (inadvertently) proves the point this thread is humorously trying to make.

All over the world, millions of children are born, grow up, and leave the confines of the parental home, start to make their own decisions, meet and marry spouses, give their spouse and children their full and undivided attention, and live happily ever after.

Parents/mothers do not have to be sidelined or ignored or treated badly. But they have to be relegated to a secondary role. It is normal and natural. All grown-ups, whether married or not, have to know how to stand on their own two feet. An unnatural attachment to parents when one is an adult is exactly that: unnatural.

Parents are not gods. Good parents do not strangle their children and sabotage their other relationships in an attempt to keep them close. Let's not pretend that Indian mothers of sons are performing Herculean feats of parenting that deserve supernatural rewards and lifelong sacrifice and unwavering adoration. This is just psychological dysfunction, and it's time we started acknowledging this.

Young@heart · Nov 15, 2013

I have a DS and a DD. I would be very ok if both my kids take their important decisions on their own once they are adults and not specifically only after getting married.
I would want both the kids to give priority on nurturing a healthy marriage rather than feeling guilty for enjoying life minus 'THE MOTHER'.

IG2013, when the new wife is expected to forget (not make No.2) parents/ siblings, why the wife's desire to be No.1 in her husband's life is wishful and whimsical desire?

Yes, I ( wicked me) join the thread here to wish my H a Very Happy Children's day.

soulful · Nov 15, 2013

Rihana said: ↑

I am replacing son with daughter, husband with wife and so on in the above text:

Will you be okay if your daughter, after getting married , communicates very less with you............stops consulting you in taking important decisions..........gives utmost importance to what her husband says only...........does every thing directly and indirectly to show that her husband is the only one man/person in her life and his father/mother matters least to him.

Expecting yourself (husband) to become the number one man in her life and expecting her to sideline her father/mother ..........and make her parents as the no. 2 woman.......as soon as the marriage takes place......... is a wishful and whimsical desire.

Answer: I hope my daughter does make her husband the number one person in her life, relies most on his judgement for important decisions, informs me about decisions only if needed, and solicits my advice only if needed. I hope she consciously shows her husband he is the numero uno in her life. I would hope to become no. 2 or lower in her life as she flies the nest, grows into an adult, has her own family, friends, commitments, routines. I would also hope she knows I am always there for her, unconditionally. I would hope I've brought her up with the values and love that make her keep in touch with me without the need for guilt trips or emotional blackmail.

I hope the same for my son.

- Ideal Future MIL.
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Rihanna, Absolutely beautiful... but then again - isn't it already happening in majority of the girls' cases? It is only the "mother -of-the-son" who can't be relegated to No 2 position.

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