Am i missing something ?

I don't think there is anything abnormal with your husband. Life with full of responsibilities can be quite stressful for anyone. It is hard to be happy 100% of the time. There is always something pending.

It has been long 7 years of marriage. Till date he showered affection on you. It is quite nice of time to do so. In many marriages, couples tend to be less touchy feely within first few years. So your current state of marriage is quite normal state for many others. I am not justifying it but asking you to make peace with it.

You focus on your pregnancy, delivery and challenging first few months with new born. It seems likely that he is going to detach himself much more from the daily chores. If possible, don't expect too much from him. Take help from your parents, in-laws. Hire extra maids to do household work.

He is asking you to be independent - at this stage of your life, it is an unreasonable demand. But his demand is not invalid. You need to be able to have good time without him also. If you are dependent on him for 100% of your good memories, it can be suffocating for him. He might feel compelled to spend every single free minute with you but he might be longing to have few pegs in bar with his friends. But this is not appropriate time for him to make such demand though.

Right now, please make peace with the fact that what is happening in your marriage is quite normal. Focus on your pregnancy. Take outside help. Give the extra space that he wants, hard to do though.

 

Am I the only one who thinks it is extremely insensitive to say this to a pregnant wife?

While you may be the touchy feelly kind who craves closeness with him...it is unlikely that you have suddenly become so.How can he suddenly get irritated by this behavior? Anyways...just because he is feeling this way is no reason for him to wish away his responsibility and crave for a "bachelor's life".He should have thought of that before taking on the responsibility of a second child.

Just leave him alone for sometime and see if he still craves the freedom to be a bachelor...

 

No. I felt he was quite insensitive. BUT I don't want OP to resolve this issue now. I don't want her to argue/fight/convince/cry/be disappointed at this stage. I think that in the process of solving this problem, OP might have to go through severe emotions, hence my caution to just leave it as it is for now and solve it after she delivers the child.

 

what is this 7 year itch ? kya hota hai ye , asa bhi khuch hota hai in married life:shock:

 

seven year itch
The seven year itch is a point that a lot of couple go through. It is the point when you have been together so long that you are tired/bored with your partner, but you have not been together long enough to have accepted the rhythm that is being in a relationship. Some people miss being single and would like a different partner. Other people just miss the freedom of being single and having no strings attached but they do not want another partner. It is a "rough" patch in a relationship.

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In my opinion...the itch if it has to happen can start at any time and for most people the relationship gets stronger by the seventh year. If people have to stray...they don't restrict themselves to certain years.

 

This is not a myth...we are 7 yrs and are itching crazy...

 

surrendersmiley
As long as both are itching it is fine......gigglingsmiley

 

What your husband experiencing is result of long term process.In general men dont express problems esp emotional one.They tend to bottle up and then blast when it is just above their tolerance limit.
So first thing first dont go in denial mode.This is big problem and thats why you are loosing your sleep.
I also agree at this stage you need lot of emotional support.Your husband do not have capacity to give it you,infact he is so much repulse by your emotional demands that he want to run away to another country where you cant reach!
I think in such a case expecting him to tolerate and continue to full fill your emotional needs is not going to work against your marriage.You need to find emotional support from ladies in your family.Women are good at it too.100 times better than men .Its their in fact natural tendency.