In future: What would it take for you to be like your present MIL

I am soooo jealous of your SIL.... ;-)

Your Mom rocks:thumbsup

Yeah I keep telling my Mom do's & don'ts after becoming a MIL(she will become MIL in a year from now)

 

My mom too, So My SIL is always telling me " she is so lucky to have such Inlaws. She is telling me she didn't get such a love even frm her own parents.

 

[h=2]In future: What would it take to be like present MIL[/h]a subdued conscience

 

Lots and lots of practice :biggrin2:

 

looking at the male/female population ratio in the current and future generation , i doubt if i would get a chance to be like my present MIL ( insecure ,bossy and wants her decision to be final in every small thing in our life) . i personally felt current generation girl kids are more independent and pampered ( i am talking about 1 or 2 yrs kids) than how we were raised because they are either only kid or with 1 siblings mostly for their parents..i am sure they will not think twice before talking back or walking out of marriage if a MIL every tries to interfere in their life :rotfl. Atleast they will have the courage to set things straight if they come across the same issues of current gen DIL..

 

A simple solution: keep parents AND in-laws at arms' length. It is possible to love, revere, and respect your parents and in-laws without inviting them to join in every marital hiccup. Children are not allowed to marry because they are still under the control of their parents. When you are a grown-up, it is assumed you can sufficiently handle your own affairs and take charge of your life not to have to run to mummy and daddy for every little thing. A marriage, especially in its early days, is like a tender plant that needs nurturing. Its nourishment is privacy, independence, and love. Whatever role your parents played in your life before, your spouse needs to take over to a large extent. Like I've said before, a marital bed is way too crowded if there are six people in it.

 

An Innocent face, a crappy brain and a loose tongue.

 

Meta, this was a cute summary can't help :rotfl:rotfl
A puppy/ licking husband, son and daughter too........

 

First and the foremost an Ideal MIL should be occupied in her own activities rather than involving herself to much on her DIL's activities, if she keeps herself busy by socializing, gardening or anything that interest her then she would be plying less on her DIL's routine, inwardly feel happy if she see's her Son and DIL happy together instead of feeling jealous and in secured after all her DIL is the one who is going to spend more number of years with her DS than herself.

 

I would rather say what I will do to not be like my present MIL.

Understand that though my family includes my child, their family does not include me. May be extended family does. But not family, per se.

And keep my long nose out of their business. Their life, their decisions.