Moving out to own flat and DH has not informed IL

Hi ladies just for some history IL asked us to move out a short while ago. DH was ignoring it. I told him we need to move as we have been asked and we need to respect your parents wishes. He said he wanted confirmation one more time that is what they wanted, and again the MIL told him best if you move a long with saying many bad things about me. So as he promised he decided we are going to move because this was last chance. Then his mother started a bother drama not even a day later to him, apologizing for what she said, how she will make it work etc. He did not say anything but in the mean time everything is organized (i.e. obtaining new place etc) for us. We got a 2bhp in Amritsar closer to our jobs and it reduces the commuting time. We also enrolled our daughter in a school there. I have also accepted a job offer in a law firm there and it is a really good job. Problem is she thinks now that we are not leaving. I told him he needs to let them know we are leaving. What do you guys think recipe for disaster, but it is up to him to tell as I was kept out of all discussions. I don't want to hurt their feelings intentionally.

 

Hi Greenbow I totally agree with you and have been doing that for DH making my self really emotionally available and offering to support him in any way. I think he needs to be the one to tell his parents as it will start WW3 if I say anything. He also wants to be the one to tell them, I just don't want them finding out from other source since we are making plans on our end. My DH has a deep inability to communicate things with his parents and this has gotten us into much more trouble then we should. In past when i try to communicate the things to avoid understanding they get more huffy so you can't win. I am just going about my business and he just needs to let them know. I am gently reminding him he needs to do this but he avoids it.

 

Hi Gayathrid12345 thanks for noticing this is what I have been doing, since they all want to keep me out of it I will stay out of it.

 

Thanks so much Vaishnavika, I am trying my best to ignore, but just don't want there too be more fall out then needs to be. I know I should be more practical and see glass half full.