Son Arrested - SHAME ON DIL

PIL's who look DIL as DIL will always have the arrow pointed towards her to be blamed for all negative things... Positive's will be burried deep inside.

But any way whether good or bad wife should be always with her Husband which may change the situation alot certainly...

 

For example everything got solved, husband released from jail, wife came back and all happy.
Suddenly husband got good profit in business and decide to take all family to foreign country tour. He only take tour with his parents and leave behind wife. What will u say my frnd?

If a wife cannot help her husb in difficult time, better she stay in her parent house only. My suggestion is coz she is in bad mrg, not treated properly etc as u said, ask her not to return to her husband ever after

I think she is selfish not concern and helping, so she is not liked. This time she proved I think. Just as we have relatives who are friendly with us only when we are rich and happy, but avoid when we are in difficult times, even some wife or husb are also like that. May be ur frnd is one such category

 

All said and done. If your friend wants to save her marriage, ask her to go back to in-laws and help them to solve this mess.Maybe leaving the child behind so she can concentrate fully on the legal issues.

 

Schizophrenic MIL, arrested husband on false charges (innocent until proven guilty)....and the lady of the house abandons the home and takes off to parents place.

mimi, can you see that something is wrong? When things settle down, ask your friend not expect the family to take her and her child back with open arms as she has abandon them when they need her the most.

 

to answer your question... yes !!! abandoning the family at this time is a bigger SIN than husband being arrested for a murder which he did not commit...

and don't even question the bullying... if the family has been bullying her for all wrong reasons, they will have a "field day" when they have a ready "right reason" and your friend was a fool to hand over such an opportunity nicely gift wrapped.. even if she was in a bad marriage and din't really fell any sympathy for that "husband" she should have acted politically correct if she intended to continue in the marriage.

Your friend's crime will be the "highlight" not only now when people are struggling to get the husband out but for "years to come" ... no one and definitely not the husband will ever "forgive" or "forget" what the wife did !!!

 

Very true charu. She should have at least been politically correct for her own benefit.
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It is quite apparent that she wants to save that marriage in spite of all the bullying for years.

This was probably a reaction in panic. Even now, she can do some damage control measures and come back to help her husband.

 

I just wondered something here.......

Lets assume that the husband was in someway involved in the crime. Not actual murder, but let say, he knowingly/unknowingly created circumstances which lead to the crime. Say he is 10% guilty and the wife knows. May be she had also warned him against taking this route, but he didn't listen to her, etc.

What should she have done then? Still stood by the husband? Actually, how far should a wife (or anyone) take this 'standing by'? Or should they also think 'innocent until proven guilty'? Would we have appreciated her desertion, and called her courageous, had we been told that she knew her husband to be guilty?