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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by MaritalBliss, Apr 3, 2013.

  1. Rakhii

    Rakhii Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    Dont go by feeling alone. You can ask when you know for sure.
     
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    MaritalBliss Platinum IL'ite

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    Hope that it's a mid life crisis and it will pass soon.....
     
  3. flowerlady

    flowerlady IL Hall of Fame

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    Hi MB,
    Mid-life crisis passes away only after one enters old age , so it will take quite a few years.
    Maybe your DH is being influenced by his Mom and wants you to carry on the family tradition like a good DIL.
    Try to find a middle path.
    PS- On a lighter note being photographed by a weirdo and not looking like a Mom of two kids could be the reason .
     
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    indianguy2010 IL Hall of Fame

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    No....No....please understand that such intuitions can be stupidly wrong many times. It is just that...he wants you to wear head scarf. Nothing more. No one else is in the picture here. Such intuitions will make you behave more belligerantly with him......it will escalate the existing bitterness more.
     
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  5. MaritalBliss

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    Hahaha..so I'm in this situation thanks to the weirdo;)

    Middle ground...well.... I told him that I would cover my head for prayer functions but he wants me to cover full time so long as I'm out of the house..

    So my soln for now is to avoid going out..

    We bring my mil, sil and the kids out every weekend..I'm gonna stop going..when my mil asks, I'm gonna tell her the reasons...

    Mil has to face it...she can make me wear the hijab by manipulating my dh but I can also stop giving her all the perks..my dh would never bring them out if I did not ask him to...
     
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    MaritalBliss Platinum IL'ite

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    Indian guy, I have a hunch..after that weirdo incident..my mil was whispering something to my dh..and then I heard him saying...this is why I tell her to wear the scarf..

    Even though he's been hinting at me to wear...he's never been this insistent till lately..
     
  7. Rakhii

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    You know he should actually be so proud of you that people still take notice of you even after two kids. Its a compliment I say!
     
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    "Owners pride neighbour's envy"
     
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    The fact that he discussed about that foreign worker incident with his mom in the way he did it raises a red flag. I think Your mil is behind this.

    After 9 years of marriage a mom still feels the need to whisper to her son in the presence of the DIL..... The intuition cannot be stupidly wrong after all :)
     
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    Yeah, I think so too...hmmmmm...
     

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