dont want to cry and heart is becoming heavy because of it..

soulful · Apr 2, 2013

call your parents to the US for 6 months. Let your DS spend some time with your parents. Once he gets to know them better, it will be more difficult for his other "grandparents" to influence him.

It is difficult to completely ban your Inlaws from coming to the US, but ensure that your parents get equal if not more time with your child. As he grows up, he will automatically figure out what is happening.

Finally, when MIl comes to the US, remember it is YOUR home and she is the GUEST. Be confident and comfortable in YOUR home and treat her as a GUEST

leesa · Apr 3, 2013

soulful said: ↑

call your parents to the US for 6 months. Let your DS spend some time with your parents. Once he gets to know them better, it will be more difficult for his other "grandparents" to influence him.

It is difficult to completely ban your Inlaws from coming to the US, but ensure that your parents get equal if not more time with your child. As he grows up, he will automatically figure out what is happening.

Finally, when MIl comes to the US, remember it is YOUR home and she is the GUEST. Be confident and comfortable in YOUR home and treat her as a GUEST
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thanks soulful for your concern...kind reply....called my parents.....but same they are afraid of my inlaws..this time when I went to india they made a big scen called everyone ... a big court type of scen at home with all relatives ..its ok...and back to India also they are taking care of my sisters kid as she is studying so she need my parents support..my MIL cant be like a guest...all the time she mentions its her house...and not mine....I cant fight with arrongant people ....I said to my DH that I not bother of his parents coming here ...but I need some time...need to get a job .....he said not now take your own time ....be happy and peaceful iam with you...and joined me in meditation class....with all your helpful words getting out of this depression....its time to become strong..

leesa · Apr 3, 2013

Haya said: ↑

leesa,

i really felt bad reading your post, what happ is happened, u cant change
but you can change the days coming
you have to be strong for your kid, i think he is really scared with something
thats y he is crying everytime you ask him
poor thing, must be feeling terrible
but dont worry, kids forget things very easily
talk to him every time, paly with him, make him forget the things he is scared about
you know a mother can do wonders is she sees her kid in trouble
so you can do it dear, the first thing you have to do is make him feel normal
help him in getting rid of is fears, if he is scared of talking abt ur parents, dont force him
give him time, cut of all contatcs of your in laws and ur DS
even if they are grandparents, if they can do something horrible like this to a small kid, they dont deserve to be treated as grand parents
concentrate on ur kid now, and leave everyhting behind, ur inalwas health, their words
nothing shoud bother you now, only your kids health
you are very kind and gud at heart and thats y u still fall for their traps
but remeber everytime what ur son is going through becauase of them

be strong and you can do it dear..prayers for you
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feeling the same haya...what ever happened is happened I cant change anything...now I have stand up for my son....he needs me ...bring him out of there wrong words...as a mother its my duty...
I know that I should not fall for there traps...atleast for my kids health and wellbeing...but one thing haya ..my mil is also a mother how can she do like this???
thanks for your prayers dear.....by seeing all your kind words iam thinking when all these good people all praying for my son nothing will happen to him...
even though bad wins now.....in long run good only wins...my dad always says...there no need of saving bank balance and properties for kids..its only good education and good attitude and good people blessings save them...in all aspects

honey29 · Apr 5, 2013

leesa said: ↑

I know marital bliss...but u don't about my fil , mil and sils behavior......they are very extreme n weird people ....
will try to cut contacts...I think its merely impossible but I will try to limit talk time
they are now nagging us to come back to India...back to India we have stay as a combined family with sils in same street...my son will behave normally if he dosent listen to there voice for one week I tried it....by listening to voice for fraction of minute also ..he agin starts like this..i think there voice activates something in him..
will keep him busy all the time and will not let him to think of them....
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Dear leesa, it's so sad that ur ILs behaving like this. First keep your self confident and brave. Discuss about this with your DH so that he himself limit the time of talking your DS with ILs. See that your son talks to inlaws in your(you n DH) presence. so that if they try to manipulate your son, DH will handle the situation.
All the best..