Stood up today - Am I being rude?

Exactly what I wanted to say, better to deal then and there instead of exploding one day and even that day you will be one that woud need help. She will still be fine and be wondering and then blaming you that you are incapable, not family girl etc.

 

Oh my goddddddddddddd!

Your are soooooooo patient, I don't understand how you put up with her! My my, she behaves like a demon! I would have surely asked you know what " do you expect me to ask permission even before I go to loo" lol
You are not her slave! What you did today is absolutely wonderful. Don't bend down so much for her and never let her talk I'll about your mom and the way she grew you up! You don't answer her for anything for a week just do what she says and if at all she forces you to speak you tell her that watever I speak you say that I don't respect you, so why open my mouth!

 

Rihana...:rotfl:rotfl:rotfl :thumbsup ...

wish.... if wishes could come true

Silvertulip.....seriously dear.... you have hell lot of patience.....n why r u sounding guilty...... you did the right thing....else she would have really eaten you up instead of the eggs...

btw... after reading your post... I actually made egg bhurji for lunch today... :-D

 

My head is spinning! Do continue your silent treatment but tell your husband that you're doing it or next, she'll try to create problems between you 2 by pointing out your behaviour and trying to gain sympathy.

 

I would have eaten the eggs happily after her instruction first or
the second time
so that she would not bug me further.Then I would ask her with an innocent face if she wants me to eat any more
I pray God to make such monster in laws dumb for ever

 

I just couldn't read past the EGGS!..lol.

I think you are at fault for giving her this much of leniance...you should have done this long back...anyways,you did a great job of handling her infront of cousin SIL..if you would have created a ruckus too infront of her,then the relatives would have started pressurizing your DH to take control of his wife.

But next time onwards,be very firm and assertive in your answers..she can't be treating someone else's daughter like this...go on vit silent treatment and no apologies.

P.S-i sympathize with the maid too..give her some extra bucks on the sly,for two readons..one for tolerating your MIL and other for, keeping her job...very high chances she might run away and you will become the replacing maid.

 

You got way too much patience. Now that you have put your foot down stay that way and dont take any non sense. I wonder how you even manage to live in this non stop nonsense for even basic things.

Girl do you think one day you can just speak your heart out - Like look MIL..I have all the respect for you as a lady and more becase you have given birth to a wonderful son. But we all live in the same house, if I have restrictions for even the basic things then its not a house, it feels extremely uncomfortable. Respect is not shown for silly things like going out for walk to even to pee in the bathroom. It just brings unpleasant atmosphere and we dont set an example of a good family. It just spoils your, your sons and my peace. Why dont we be cordial, I am speaking all this as I feel I am a part of this house and want to be so always together. bla bla. (OP, i dont have first hand experience in such, its just my expectation that things might go well after this)

BTW dont speaking anything with the maid in MILs back, keep them at their place, else they will start taking undue advantage of this chaotic situation at home.

 

Sivertulip,
U have done a good job by opening your mouth. Ur MIL cannot exepect a robotic job from you.
U should give such "Cleansing statements" now and then.
Atleast for some time from now on ur MIL will watch her words.
Have no fear. Ur DH supports you.
Its not fair fior anyone to intrude into anyone eating choice and habits.
Now just be normal and behave as if nothing has happened. Dont try to give extra comfort to her in this phase.
I have show my MIL her place once or twice from then onwards these taunts are reduced.
Now and then it still happens but I give a damn.
And ha dont repeat the act of giving her back again and again. Else it may loose its impact,
It should come like a sudden blow to them unexpectedly.
Hope u found this tip useful ;-P :thumbsup