highly depressed please suggest something :(

kritka · Feb 7, 2013

Hi All
I came to this website just after some months . i am highly depressed these days
Just want to move out .My main problem istht my hubby says that I have to run the house in a given budget .It makes me sick.Whener he wants to have a lunch outisde hewill say ys I will have it lets go and whenerv I ahve to spend money outside my pockets he says no .... he often told me he never did lunch in office wht on earth is he saying ? Are offices too busy to provide u even no lunch tme so I started giving him tiffin which he takes according to his wishes then says bhul gya wht a deal ?wht should I do ? staying at hme has made me depressed and being dependant upon him too much .........
hIS atitude is r8 ? please help me in deciding ?

thanks

Endlesshope · Feb 7, 2013

Could you please not use the "SMS style " it's just so difficult to understand why exactly are you depressed and what exactly do you want us to help decide !!

mapleleaf · Feb 7, 2013

Firstly, I hope you feel better, no fun being depressed and all.
Kritka, you are his wife not baby sitter or mom , so don't fuss if he is not eating his lunch. He is a big boy will eat when hungry, if not there is nothing you can do about it. You are not responsible for it.
Everybody lives on a budget, it is a good thing. Why don't both of you sit together and draw your expenses every month together, this way you will prioritize household expenses and also allot some for each of your miscellaneous/eating out expenses. Together decide what is reasonable for each category of expense. Turn it into a positive thing.Time to take charge and be smart not get depressed. Cheer up

Anitap · Feb 7, 2013

Try to become financially independent.

crazymom · Feb 7, 2013

I agree with Anita, try to get a job so you won't be dependent on him. Good luck!

kritka · Feb 7, 2013

hi All

lets take this matter in a logical way .
the story is half told : Since i was feeling so bad that i didnt had the time to put it down in a correct order . Now its all gone Let me begin ..
I did my masters in management from india in 2009 in recssion year and then got married i have some 2 years exp in product marketing that time i use to earn very less as comp to my hubby but i had a job smething to go out , had frds and ofcourse independance . my hubby decided to shift to london for his job .now i decided to accompany him . as soon as he came here he changed his whole attitude .. save save and save and told me to run house in a budget . i dnt say budget in wrong but i hardly get anything from him for my expenses in tht i just go for waxing here and nothing more .rest is all spend on food etc ...now whether i go out and spend something like a coffee etc he says its not done .... i know we all save but not at the exp of anothers happiness ... my whole life is reduced to cooking bass ... staying at hme specially here has made me depressed ... i am looking for jobs but its not easy to find one ... should i move back tp india ?

kritka · Feb 7, 2013

i mean who knows wht all he eats in office , this makes me sick morver no frds to talk on regular basis have taken a toll on me ....

Rihana · Feb 7, 2013

kritka said: ↑

... my whole life is reduced to cooking bass ...
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The fish ?

Ajith · Feb 7, 2013

Rihana said: ↑

The fish ?
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My favorite. Lucky husband.

makeuplover · Feb 7, 2013

Hi Kritika, you have to be bold and talk about this to your husband. May be he was brought up like that. Some people are selfish to spend money on their wives or friends but they will get whatever they want. If he doesn't listen tell him tht you are going to find a job