i don't even knw if this is a problem

Hi I am a 26 year old woman married for almost 3 yrs now (love-cum arranged),
I have known my hubby for nearly 5 years before marriage and we have been great friends. We are both smart n goodlooking
We live abroad without any ILs or relatives and are happy. We both work full time through the week in same company, same dept.

Now I feel ever since we've taken this job the frequency of intercourse between us is very less (about once or maximum 2ce a week) and in that also 80% of the time I have to initiate. Before taking up this job we both were studying here for a yr.

I don't know if this kind of frequency is normal, considering we are busy through the week, but it just makes me kinda upset to think that if its so less now (in 3 years) what will happen after 10,15, 25 years?

Its not like he does not love me, but once we return from work he is more keen to watch tv and sleep on time. I have conveyed my feelings to him, and he insists that s** is not an expression of love, whereas i definitely feel it is

Usually, I am the first one to start cuddling kissing etc as well.

One exception to this- when we went to India a couple of months ago and I was at my parents place for a week we dint meet, and then he became very physically intimate.

Any suggestions/ comments ladies? Is this kind of frequency normal? am I over-reacting, thinking too much. Please guide as I don't know who else to talk to this about.

PS: No kids, thankgod

 

thanks for replying Anitap.
I wonder if it is job stress, since I work same place and I sure as hell wan't some intimacy..
Anyways, any idea how to counter "job stress"

 

he is 26 too.

 

Another very surprising thing is that about a few months back he went for a guy's night out with a friends. Next day he confessed to me that he had been there.. i was very hurt and asked him what was missing in our life...

but he insists that he just went for the sake of getting an experience.
it was his first and last time