Does Children impact Parents' bond?

The answer is different for different people. Having kids will strengthen the bond only if they are in a good relationship. If anyone wants to have kids just to make the relationship work then it can become a problem.

Also I wouldn't suggest anyone having kids immediately after the marriage (esp if it is an arranged marriage) . I think as couple you need time to understand each other.

 

Couldn't resist...Perturbations could destabilize an otherwise stable system....they could however also be used to bring order and control chaos.:coffee

 

Yes chil1dren will make the bond strengthen between parents dad will feel more responsible towards the family wives want that only right we r having good time with our 3yr lo if his dad shouts at me he says ush and beat him same with me vice versa sometimes we r forgetting what we r fighting about with my lo innocent actions &talks now we can see the added colors to our life

 

i am against this...having a child with a doting father definitely brings down the relationship...its my personal experience...my daughter 1 1/2 yrs old is the apple of her father's eye(mine too)..but he does things for her at any cost..like hurting me, finding faults with me even for petty things...when she walks and if she stumbles lightly, he gives me a stare that i am not looking after hera..he is not understanding that kids stumbling when they learn to walk is a common thing..this is a simple example and now it has come to an extent that i am taken for granted and she is everything for her...

parents brought together after a child is absolutely rubbish

 

I partially agree to the OP's question.....Because otherwise there would be no separations or divorces after having a kid.....Is it possible? No. There are other factors that may cause divorces, for e.g. ex-marital affair but ultimately even a child cannot bond his/her parents to stay together (though in some cases it does, but not all). About this ex-marital affair, is the real case happened to one of my relatives and so i am into this conclusion.

I completely agree to what some posters here said that the couple should strengthen their relationship first and then enter into parenthood. It is very important to build an understanding between two individuals, be it an arranged marriage or love marriage.

 

This is exactly what my answer will be too.

 

firstly i think both the husband and wife shud feel ready to bring in and raise a kid. that is the first criteria. and that comes only after u ve sized up eachother and have decided he/she will be a good parent to my child. a bond already exists in that case and sure it strengthens cos u realise that u r both responsible for this small helpless creature that each of u have helped create.

 

first of all after marriage, the couple should get to know each other, support each other and be there for each other. secondly, children are a result of their love, commitment and support to each other inspite of all odds, if that exist, children will only add to their life and support.if couple do not understand each other, then children like other problems will definitely impact their bond