What really wife expects from her husband?

guess, question should be what really husband expects from wife??

 

Well Indian men really need to grow up and become responsible husbands.The basic problem for most guys is -family includes(in order of priority)their mom,dad,sister and then wife (who is joining their family).As long as this priority order is reversed nothing can be done about it.

Socially and culturally speaking they are conditioned to think that there is nothing wrong with their expectation.But logically speaking,its a selfish demand.

 

Well said snm!!

 

Respect and some personal/private space.

Wife is NOT a slave bought for life, a fellow human being with emotions and equal or even better status than her spouse. In fact, most of the women bring hefty dowry. Brings money for their life time of room/board from her parents.

If I recall, the way I was treated at the earlier years of marriage, I wonder why the hexx, I am still married?
May be, I had more tolerance/patience and afraid of parents when I was younger.

One of the mysteries of married life.

 

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I think women would find it harder to win loud, upfront conflicts against in-laws. I am not saying that the husband is right--but he and his parents have been standing together with each other for atleast two decades in terms of any difference they might have with any other person. He might get a guilt pang if he decides to not stand with them any more--even if now its his married life at stake.

I think people should choose their fights. We need to learn the art of winning, by fighting on our strength areas--and avoiding the areas where we are weak. In a direct confrontation with in-laws there is very little chance that husbands would support their wives. So just suck it up that time---and later try to work on the soft corner men have for their wives. A man won't wage outright wars with his parents because of his wife; but he will feel deeper for his wife in his personal moments with her. Just use that time well, to say what you want to say, and use a bit of cleverness. Its not about righteousness or feminism or male chauvinism, its about being strategic to get what you want to get in life.

Having said that --yeah men choose their parents over their wives a lot of times. But that's also got a lot to do with the time, and place, and manner, we women sometimes choose to express ourselves. We often fight on the unfavorable battle-grounds and ignore the ones in which we are definitely stronger. We can choose to brood about the unfairness in our situation---or we can simply act smarter and shrewder and be the game changers.

 

OP, In addition to what Snm1984 said....

Indian men don't really get married for themselves. When they are getting married, they don't think like: Wow! I'm getting a wife, she will be my life-partner, we will grow old together, besides I'll start 'my own family', I'll have MY home, I'll have kids, they all will be part of myself. Its grt to be married !!! (This is something the bride expects from her husband.... sic!)

Rather they think like: Yay ! My mom has found me a wife, she will look after my parents, mom won't have to cook anymore, I don't have to worry if they fall ill, my wife will take care of them all, my sister will be her guru in these matters. Isn't it grt to be married?!!!

You see the HUGE difference between expectations and reality??? :bonk

 

dont you people get bored bashing indian men, so often?!