life after the death of a loved one

The title made me go "no Kamalji, no!" but the jokes brought back that happy smile to my face Kamalji! All said and done, you are right - it is necessary to have a will and you have done the right thing! Thank you for directing to Viswa sir's blog - will read.

Now, this

is a classic and loved the rajnikanth joke - my DH will love it. Waiting for him to wake up to share. it is only 5.30 you see and yes sir, yes! Even alcohol is a solution - either ways! Now, I have to go do my morning walk with my neighbor!

 

Ah! Sensible and serious blog from you Sir.
Made me sad though. And just wanted to coin one for this.

I don't know whether you or I
Will be cursed to stay longer.
Whoever it may be, should not shy
Away from life. Lets be stronger.

May be its an opportunity for us
To realize how much we miss other.
Though it hurts even saying less
About it and talk something rather.

Won't it be just too kind and great
If we leave like thousands of leaves
Gently from the tree early or late
Always making a graceful leave?

Would we let our dear ones suffer
When we are alive and kicking?
Its only really wise that we prefer
To arrange things and leave them wishing.

 

Dear Kamalji,

Thank you for a wonderful write up on my favorite subject and you did a great job of mentioning several aspects of preparation for eternal journey. You rightly mentioned living peacefully now is more important than leaving peacefully. What a statement to make. Your wise words of wisdom sometimes hits me like lightening. After all, I live in a city that is known as lightening capital of the world.

Registering will is very important besides preparing it. Those having younger children should also plan their future properly by assigning responsibility to a few friends (Of course with their consent) to provide academic advice, manage financial responsibility and act as foster parents.

Regarding nomination on bank accounts and all properties, I made a step forward by making my wife either or survivor account holder and property owner of everything I own. My son is a nominee on all our bank accounts and assets. If I leave, my wife is not looking even for my death certificate as she can do whatever she wants with all my bank accounts and assets. Kamalji, I know what you are thinking. It is a fool proof system devised by me to avoid divorce. I know my wife will never divorce me because she knows fully well that I can't last even for a day without her.

Viswa

 

I have told my wife, that if u die, this is around 10 years back one day at teatime, I wont remarry (how can I tell her, once is enough eh !)

That is so typically you, kamalji.LOL

but a very sensible topic. Good jokes too. I am free today after a long time so had a good laugh.

 

Dear Kamalji,

Leave it to Kamalji to infuse humor even to death!

What you say is so true, like Viswamitra says, live and leave peacefully and hope this wisdom is driven into everyone.

At last we know the reason for our prime minister's eternal silence and the wife's lot amongst other things!:rotfl

L, Kamla

 

nice post kamalji..loved the jokes..esp the Rajanikanth one

 

Dear Kamalji,

A good topic indeed and even more good jokes at the bottom of the post.

You and my Dad must be brothers in another birth because you think so much alike.

I can totally vouch for all that you have said about securing your and your loved one's future by doing the right things and putting paperwork in place while you are still around for them. When Daddy went to Germany 35 years ago, he made his Will before he left for Germany thinking "what if something happened to me?". Of course, he came back fine but that is how much thought he puts into these things. His paperwork is up-to-date, Will updated, bank accounts/investments all current with nominations etc. Myself and my siblings are always kept updated with the latest on all of these important things and paperwork. Although we do not live there anymore, we know eaxctly what document is where and what it contains. Of course, there is a master list of these things and this list is safely kept in the locker.

Here in the US, there is a document called aLiving Will in addition to the regular Will. The regular Will describes your decisions after you are gone. However, the Living Will lists your choices of how you want to live (or die) if you were to be in a critical medical condition. It details what treatment to give you if you were in a critical medical condition where you cannot speak or make decisions for yourself - whether you should be resusitated, should life prolonging aids such as ventilators or feeding tubes be used etc.

Having recently gone through such a situation myself, I cannot say how important this document is not only to the person himself but also for the close family who is saddled with making tough decisions about their close one's treatment in dire situations. I strongly believe that eveyone MUST have a Living Will no matter what their age since such calamities can strike anyone.

Nice coming back here after such a long time.

SS

 

my dear Kamal
Only you can write with so much humour and light heart and make the reading a pleasure
You are so right about the details that needs to be attended to prior to some misfortune happening.
sadly many of us me included is putting it off.
In U.S it is very tough if a will is not made. If you want your family to get anything at all you better make the will
Then the more important is the living will which will take care of matters if you go into a coma or life support. Without such a will the decision to remove one from life support can only be made by next surviving kith or kin
its easier to take care of these while living
always love your jokes
liked the one about is it easy being a woman?!
we need you to be here writing.. so please live for a hundred or more years