Physical abuse :(

Physical abuse is not acceptable! Good that you have sent him out of the house.
Don't contact him anymore.Take your time to think what you really want.
From my personal experience I can say life without an abuser is definitely better than living in constant fear and misery! It is painful but suicide is not an option. You have a child to take care of.So be strong!
But I would rethink the idea of adopting twin boys now. First get your life in order.
Divorce, child custody, getting a new job (?), new home etc. lot of things to do before you decide to take responsibility for two other kids.

 

Rajapriyab, you are well educated it seems then why do you sound like you are innocent and don't know anything what to do. First of all you will think I am rude and what not so that hardly matters to me because whatever I speak I will tell you now because that will in turn help you out but if you feel bad then I wont apologize. Okay so let me start with my suggestions. You have a hubby who abuses right. Do one thing if you got your father or any good friend who knows to deal in law thing or anything as such take them along with you to the cops and lodge a complaint. If you are going alone then also do it wisely. If you are afraid or scared to go then just contact a good NGO who protects women's against domestic violence. See the background/review of that NGO because I see that some NGO's are also involved in flesh trade business. So its better to do a online check of it. Once you have made up your mind go ahead with that NGO and ask for your rights from your husband. Rights I will explain you about what. Financial rights to take care of yourself and if you are a mom of a kid. Half the value of the house for you since you are his wife. Wife gets everything in equal whatever belongs to her husband if its in his name only otherwise you don't. So go and sit and suck his brains out and ask for your rights. If he beats you again take 20-30 ladies from the NGO and do the best you can. I don't need to say what. A women can be a good wife/mother/sister and if the time comes she can even be a kalika devi for people with bad behavior.

 

You have given half the version here, that too only yours, or probably i didnt know your problems you posted in previous posts and i havent seen them.

Some confusion, why do you want to adopt two twin boys when you have a child. And that too you are telling you dont have any financial help from him. Not that adoption is bad thing, but when you are afraid to live alone with your one child, why again adopt others???

Assess your situation, i dont say go for divorce right away as you seem to be unsure and in confusion right now for whatever might be the reason. Go for counselling with your husband if possible.

And if you think that he will abuse you in future and wont mend his ways, we have provisions in DV Act where husband is responsible to give accommodation and maintenance to child even without divorce.

But he can always counter the cases and with our judiciary, no one will be the gainers except some lawyers and corrupt officials.

You need to have clarity about what you want in your life so that someone can suggest you better.

Good luck

 

Are we dreaming??? Where does this half value for the house to wife arises?? And which laws says what ever husband has half to the wife???

The provisions you mentioned are no where in the currently law, be it HMA/DV Act or 498A.

Legal advises should not be given without proper analysis. At the max what she can get immediately is interim maintenance for the child (if wife not working, she can also claim but there are enough rulings where well educated wife with capacity to earn herself will not be entitled for maintenance.)

No were property clause in current law. Advises pertaining to marital differences and divorce should not be given in haste. There is no shortcut and legal approach will need long and endless battle, often running to several years, if not decades.

 

How does this fit the bill in the current situation which is already messy ?? OP ... are you financially strong enough?? If yes, suggest you opt for seperation for some time.. see if your hubby turns around and ready to make some compromises.

 

I will say talk to him and ask him why he is behaving like this. Hitting u is a strict no-no and he has no right to hit u! May be shun him out of ur life for sometime if he is not going to change his behavior, as he thinks he has the right to do anything he wants. He needs to know that he has to treat u with respect.

 

Bharats just give me sometime, after reading your comments I have joined some law forums right now and will soon give a feedback with all the clauses and sections soon because I am good at researching online.

 

I don't know English so well, but still I will say it. A tap will come to a well on its own for water, the well doesn't have to go to the tap (Nulka khud kuhe ke pass pani ke liye aayega, kuhe ko pani ke paas jane ki zaroorat nahi). When a hubby needs what he wants, he will come to you on its own and that point of time you make him wait more. Let him get anxious and then get your work done easily. First secure something financially for your kid and yourself and then get ahead along with him otherwise let him cry for his own mistakes.