Influence of parents conduct on Children

Dear Periamma,

Thank you for your comments. You are right about the parenting skills of younger generation. I see their parenting class apart when compared to parenting skills I had when my son was growing up. We have a lot of lessons to learn from the present generation and it is a topic by itself.

Viswa

 

Dear Kylie,

What an excellent idea about giving fixed amount each time to teach them to spend within the budget. The temptation is too difficult to overcome even for adults and I don't blame the children facing that. I agree with you that children also learn out of their experience of interacting with their teachers and friends. The way they choose their friends also makes a big difference in their lives.

I have heard different views about giving money as incentive for achieving academic performance. Your clear statement on this gives me direction now that there is nothing wrong as long as it is given in a measured way.

Thank you for your enlightening response.

Viswa

 

Dear Kamalji,

Thank you for reading this post and for your wonderful response. Cell phone is a wonderful example of what we should not be doing as a parent. I never thought of it and thank you for giving a practical example adding value to this post. Thank you.

Viswa

 

Dear VJ,

Thank you for your kind words.

Viswa

 

Dear Aspire,

You brought up a very good point about the children shining very well in their character when parents did not do as well as the children. You have quoted the most important lesson of Hiranyakashipu and Prahalad as example.

Prahalad was a realized soul with a right to be born at will in any family unlike normal being who has no option but to incarnate to face the consequences of their actions. Prahalad decided to come into existence as a son of Hiranyakashipu to complete the mission of an Avatar. We need to also look at Hiranyakashipu's life before the spell of feeling most powerful person in the world through a boon. He spent a lot of time worshiping the Lord to even get that boon. He was a very learned person prior to his feeling the best in the world. This is a lesson that even if someone is an expert in Vedas an Shastras, he could go into the spell if he does not control his ego. Interestingly, even Ravana's life is considered flawless until he decided to take away mother Sita from Rama. He was a great devotee and would do anything to keep the people of Sri Lanka happy.

I would take all of the above as lessons for raising children. We as a human being is a mix of outstanding character (good qualities) as well as not so good qualities. We have to demonstrate our struggle to kill those bad qualities everyday teaching the lesson why those need to go away. We also need to demonstrate our good qualities so that the children can inculcate those from us. The children have their own agenda and the Lord matches their requirement and send them to a family based on their prior karma. It is our duty to help them to release them out of the consequences of their actions to the extent possible besides working on our own consequences.

I am sure you will have a wonderful parenthood with your wife and with your everlasting keenness to know, the child will be a bright and shinning star. God bless you.

When you get a chance kindly read a blog written by me called Dependent & Decisive Children - Blogs - IndusLadies. This might be helpful to raise children to make their own decisions and driving them with questions to make the right decisions. When they learn to make good decisions, they will be very successful. Moreover, they definitely own their decisions better than ours.

Viswa