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Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by needhelp123, Jul 4, 2012.

  1. eandian

    eandian IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear OP,
    Good idea. Your safety comes first. Like I said...No good deed goes unpunished.
    Take care.
     
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  2. Uttaraa

    Uttaraa Platinum IL'ite

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    Needhelp,

    I side with flowerlady here. Moral obligation pricks you and feel incumbent to show the truth to the other lady. You have to let go the matters of your ex. You never know what transpired between both the parties and why she agreed for the marriage. May be she is aware, may be not but you obviously don't have to break your head over it. Start planning your life ..

    It is nice to see that you want to protect another innocent life but at the best you can help her only she seeks help.

    If she wants to marry your ex probably he is what she needs in some form...you never know..too many speculations..you don't know who she is or what she sees in your ex. Live it to them to decide..hold on..may be he is her new victim ;-)
     
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  3. MaritalBliss

    MaritalBliss Platinum IL'ite

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    I would think anonymous letter which can't be traced to u would suffice...at least the gal wld get a warning and watch out for the signs..but it might land u and yr family in trouble.

    You are such a nice person...no one deserves abuse..nothing much u can do here...it wld however make ur conscience feel better if u give her a warning..the rest is up to her..
     
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    aniShekar Platinum IL'ite

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    IMO, I'm not too sure if an anonymous letter would work - what if your ex would says "it's my ex-wife who would have written this"....and wave it around as proof of your supposed "vindictiveness"? He's already slandering you - so this will simply act as fuel to the blaze.

    IMO, if matters were serious at a physical abuse level - telling her once would suffice, (in the event she really didn't know. It would ease your consicence, at least).

    As another poster has suggested - telling though a 3rd party would be a good idea too
     
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    parvathi1980 Platinum IL'ite

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    Get on with your life. Don't bother about your ex. He marries or not is none of your concern any more. Move on.
     
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  6. positivegal

    positivegal Gold IL'ite

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    How many girls are you going to protect from your ex's clutches. It's the responsibility of the other girl who is planning to marry has to find out your ex's nature. Just CONCENTRATE on YOURSELF.
     
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  7. DrKadambari

    DrKadambari Gold IL'ite

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    I dont think you should be writing any anonymous letter. just get on with your life. you cant go save the world from him. you might not know the girl might have the gutts to handle him, just leave it.
     
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  8. Foundlove

    Foundlove Gold IL'ite

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    Let it go. Believe me, my ex is married a 3rd time now. So your ex will find someone to marry him. When my ex married a 2nd time his marriage fell apart in 1 and 1/2 yrs. His 2nd wife sought me out thru common friends. I found out that my ex had asked his friends to speak against me to convince her. Even if I would have called her she would not have believed me. She told me this because I was feeling guilty as to why I did not do something. She had a miscarriage during the marriage because of his abusive nature and I was blaming myself for the loss of that life.

    You cannot do anything. Let it go.
     
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  9. needhelp123

    needhelp123 Silver IL'ite

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    The more I get to konw about this 'alliance' the more I am convinced to just stay out of this matter. I know the girls family and relatives are well informed. It seems like they have their own reasons to ditch the girl into this!



    Hmmm well maybe this is really the case here!:hide:
     
  10. Geetanjalikumar

    Geetanjalikumar Gold IL'ite

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    All you can do is, if she or her family comes to you or your family about him, then let them know the truth.
    You are pitying the new girl now, but you never know what's in his fate. :)
     
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