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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by silentlotus, Jul 9, 2012.

  1. silentlotus

    silentlotus Senior IL'ite

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    Dear Chandrika, Thanks for your Helping hand. I took my treatments at KKH. 4 of my clomid only cycles and 1 iui were done there. Rest of them in India.
     
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    silentlotus Senior IL'ite

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    Dear All, Thanks a lot for all your hugs and the moral support you provided for me. I feel much better now. I'm going to take 2 months break before I start my next ivf cycle.
     
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    Chandrika82 Silver IL'ite

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    Silentlotus, if you are still thinking of treatment at singapore as an option, you can try visiting Dr. Selina Chua at Mt. Elizabeth hospital. She's brilliant, and her consultation charges are more or less same as that in KKH (if you are a foreigner, PR might get discounts). Only if you get admitted it becomes expensive.
    She treated me during TTC with PCOD and I was able to conceive.
     
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    silentlotus Senior IL'ite

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    Thanks Chandrika. If I'm going to continue my treatment in SG, I shall visit there next :)
     
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    Geetanjalikumar Gold IL'ite

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    Dear SilentLotus,

    All, I can say is, I will keep you in my prayers. Please, do not loose your hopes for your future.

    Best to you,
    Geeta
     
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    dear op,

    since there are pressures from inlaws, you need to involve people from your side too and explain the problem to them...you should ensure that all the people concerned will work toward the right solution...
    in all these efforts, you should take your DH along with you...if you ensure that you two are in sync, then all others will fall in line...
    find out the suitable route to be followed and work towards the goal without giving up at any point of time...
    best of luck...
     
  7. silentlotus

    silentlotus Senior IL'ite

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    Dear GMR and all ,

    Thankyou for your time and concern. I will definitely work towards my goal. Wish I never give up. The situation is like its impossible for my inlaws to understand the situation or be supportive to me. If they had been the other way, they could have asked me to come to their place and undergo the treatment. All they could do is complain to all the relatives that I'm not visting them.blah blah! Similarly my relatives apart from my parents & siblings & a few of my aunts/uncles, others would complaint that I didnt visit them purposely. But its different incase of their daughters/daughter in laws. Even when I talk to our relatives (both sides) and inform them that I'm adviced to be on bed rest,hence I cudnt visit them but I would definitely do when I'm able to. They could never understand. Though I attend the functons to the extent possible. Even there I have to smile for all questions cannot answer! What surprises me is? Cant people even think I would like to socialise for my age. Would anyone be at home wantedly! Earlier I used to visit them whenever I come. I'm not used to be at home all the time.
    Similarly my inlaws can be in the hospital the whole day for their relative's daughter's miscarriage(Indeed I feel very sorry for her).But when I was in similar situation they didnt even call me/visited me. They can stay in their relative's home, when I'm at my parent's home in the same town but cannot come to see me or talk to me. The most disgusting is I used to inform them whether I'm there for IUI/IVF/the procedure dates/when my days have extended beyond the tww/bfps.There had been no single word of comfort from them. There are many such incidents to hurt me but again there is a mind right that tells me to ignore all such people.As mentioned, I'm already engaged with other problems to deal with. I definetely know that I'm solving them too. I feel its better to be like a deaf and dumb and carry on my life with whomever are loving to me. After seeing the other posts its seems I'm on the right track. But I still need more practice on this. Theres no use in fighting after all why should I spoil my peace. Its better I can vent it out here if I feel more stressed up only ;) Atleast you all can understand me rite!
     

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