What is yourchild scared of?

Dear friends,

This thread has a story behind it.My elder son Kishore is 9 years now.He won't sleep alone in the bed ,never enters a room without bright light and some times feel really scary to go to bathroom at night times closing the door.

When I ask him to go to bed early ,he would request me to make my second one(he is 20 months old) sleep in his jhoola in the bedroom so that he will have a company.

I explained to him that a thing such as ghost never exist in the world.He said that he is not afraid of ghosts.He is afraid of aliens.Thanks to all the Hollywood fiction movies we are watching,he is terrified by the idea of an alien landing in our bathroom.

"See,we are living in a very big community.Security people are there.Why an alien would leave all the other 318 houses and come to our house.",I tried to reason.

"We have the possibility of 1 in 319.So,by chance it may happen.",he replied.

In my childhood days,the toilet in the back yard is some distance away from the house.Even at night times,we used to draw water from well,carry in a bucket and walk in the pavement amidst of thick trees in a dim light..Never once ,we were afraid of anything.

From where do the idea of fear comes to these kids.TV?Stories?

Till now,the toddler son is going boldly inside unlit rooms.But,he may soon learn about fear from his elder brother.

Share your kids' fears and suggest a few ideas to overcome them.

 

Dear Happytobe,

From where does your DD get that fear?What is she afraid of?

To see the kids afraid of something really makes our situation bad.Whatever we say to overcome the fear,they will stick to their ideas .As they grow up ,automatically they will overcome their fear.

I do have a fear but not an ordinary one but it is a phobia ,I suppose.I am scared of flowers.Not scared ,but I feel them yucky.It is OK if they are in trees and plants,unplucked.But,once,they are plucked,I hate them to touch and even hate their smell.

When I was 3 years old,one of my aunt made a braids out f my hair with a lot of flowers.I cried a lot and even in the photo taken then,I was with a lot of tears in the eyes.From that day onwards,I am scared of flowers.

I can't even remember a bit of the incident and my mother told this before a few years.

Please,never ever force your child to do a thing.It will affect their subconscious mind.

 

Dear Kiranavvari,

This is really hard part ---convincing that nothing can harm them.It needs constant attention to her fears.

Doors....How old is your DD?She is scared that she may be left alone in a closed room.Your way of convincing is good ,without forcing her and showing the doors used by others.

I wish that she is not scared any more.

 

Oh Rani.Very much like my son.they can't even realize,how a 2 year old kid can prevent any harm done to them.That is the way a child thinks.

I asked Kishore,"What if an alien comes?They may be scared of us too."

He replied,"No,it may take me to its planet to do some experiments with me."

Then and there,he picks some evidence from newspaper and books to show me that life exists on other planets too.