Why is he like this?

are his parents around/alive? does he send money back home? do you have a good relationship otherwise?

 

Hi,
Seems like he has some extra connections..check out his mobile stuff without him knowing..or some saddistic guys who enjoys troubling his wife do all this kind of stuff..
My other uestion for u is "is he taking u out for small trips,is he giving u some money for personal need, is he non abusive ?" ..If the answers is yes then i would say just ignore and u also join a job and dont share any details to him

 

Some men don't like to open up. Although they don't tell their wife about their finance etc but they do the right thing. They would have enough savings and plan wisely for rainy days.

Anyway it's your right to know about the finance. I am not sure how you can make him understand that as he had ignored your concerns before this. Try making stories that a friend of yours is having a bad financial crisis due to her husband's carelessness in managing their finance. Say you are worried such thing may happen to you and your family. See what he has to say. I hope he would say you don't have to worry about it as he manages the finance well and have enough savings for his wife and kid. Say you trust him that he will not put you and your son in a bad situation.

Is he calling his parents from the office phone or his mobile? Maybe he is calling from his office because the bill goes to his company. Do you have a land line at home? He might use the office phone with a special card purchased by him that allows his to make calls at cheaper rates. He can't use the card with his mobile.

Or tell him you too would like to talk to his parents. So ask him to call when you are around.

If he is a good husband in other aspects, then it's better if you try to ignore small matters because that is the way he is. Don't wait for him to speak up. You start conversations that interest him.

It would be good if you can find a job for yourself. You can save some money and at the same time you'll get to know some friends.

 

ajuma, I am sorry about your situation. It is definitely frustrating if your better half behaves like this with you. How is your relationship with his family? Do you keep in touch with them regularly? Have they stayed with you?
When you were working, who managed income and exp with respect to your salary?

If he does not speak about his family, why dont you start by telling him latest updates about your family and ask about his? I also feel that his behaviour might be getting to you more now that you are at home and have more time to think/stress about this. If you can plan well, why dont you get back to work and put your LO in a daycare? This will keep you occupied and you will also be able to manage your finances yourself.

It is not healthy for the spouse to be kept completely in the dark about financial matters. Why dont you propose some new investment, a house or something. This might get him to open up a bit about finances. All said and done, you have to make sure you do not overly nag him else he might only rebel and it will not help you.

Be strong, do not lose hope.