i wish that i dont live.......

I can understand your agony totally but all i would say is get hold of your life right now.No matter whatever sacrifices we do in the name of family or kid or something else all we get is disappointment.Never sacrifice your own interests for the sake of others ,its just useless...nobody will appreciate or remember it as time goes.you are well educated and even if you try from now you will definitely be succesfull in getting a job,small or big doesnt matter .You will get your confidence and then you dont feel bad about anything.I would again reiterate dont leave any of your intrests or passions for the sake of others just do what makes you content because in the end that is all what matters.Life is so precious ,dont waste it with futile things ,u can find happiness in even the little things that life has given us.Good luck dear.

 

yes what hollyhock told is exactly correcst. You go for job. We should not loose our individuality. If your sil goes for job why not you. Try and get job. Best of Luck

 

I think you want to work and have a career. No point in sacrificing it and feeling bad. You may be called as a bad wife, bad dil but you will end-up doing what you want.

 

Dear Smilemoon,
I can understand wht u r going thru
coz, i have been to similar situation before
my hubby was abroad, me living with in laws
even though i had gud degree, i cudnt go for job
but now i have a job, joined my huby and shud say that have more peace in life
so i wud say, hang on, life will surely change
try to spare sometime for you alone and do things which makes u happy
even if its for 10 mnts, do it everyday
slowly, slowly, u can increase the time
this will give a positive energy in you
and u will get the energy to think of alternatives to change ur life
going for a job or joining ur hubby
for all that first u have to gain ur self confidence
so work for that, everything will fall in place gradually..

 

Instead of sitting at the computer and writing out posts like this - take charge of your life!!! Your child needs you to be confident, mentally strong and most importantly HAPPY!!!

There are thousands of jobs available, if you just have computer and internet...

What do I do?

After marriage, I was working, doing my MBA and looking after my 80+ FIL till my son was 3... then I left my job due to sciatica, and decreasing health of FIL and increasing responsibilities for son....

now my son is 6... but due to several reasons, i've not got back to work...

So I do a lot of stuff from home:

Voluntary & Hobby work:
1) All neighbourhood kids (6th to 12th) come to me for any kind of advice - whether health, friends, maths, english literature, science projects, computers, setting up a website etc...
2) I help a pediatric cardiologist raise money for her "free heart surgery for poor children"
3) I help market soft toys/diyas made by mentally and physically disabled children and get them orders
4) I collect neighbourhood kids (KG to 5th), tell them stories (like our grandmothers used to tell from puranas), I'll teach slokas and play games with them ... I call it weekly value education class! I show videos of disabled people who have made a success of their life, I plant trees, I get their help to make cookies etc

Subject related to my skill set (broadly related): I'm a software techie
1) I set up an application to help my BIL's business.
2) I created websites for kids and invite people to write about their kids
3) I have created websites for green organizations, for charity organizations etc
4) I write blogs about technical stuff that I know and help other people
5) I have helped other people set up websites, done lots of reviews for them, advised them the best tools etc...

My sons subjects : My son is 6 years old
1) I create a lot of worksheets for my son to write on,
2) I browse for projects and activities - we made a big soap bar out of leftover soap just last week!!!

There are so many things to do that you would not get time to sit and brood !!!!

Do look for your interests and find what you can do!!!! I dont earn any money out of all these!!! But it keeps me smiling all day !!!

Keep smiling
Harini

 

i know its out of topic:confused2:
but cant stop from appreciating you harini
way to goBow

 

Yeah Lavii... my DH says - "If you dont find intellectually stimulating work to do, you make yourself, me and DS crazy.... so find something to do!!! "

:bonkha ha ha !!!

Thats why I'm able to relate to smilemoon here!! No use thinking of dying... better to find something to do, that's useful to you and others and keeps you mentally satisfied!!!

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