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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by laamadhura, Jun 23, 2010.

  1. Priya16

    Priya16 IL Hall of Fame

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    madhura,


    You need to provide more details and timings of there relationship and marraige.Her situation is not act sensitive and trying to live with that man.
    She needs to sort of the things.Her husband either have to get Divorce and cut the bonding with his ex or she needs to think about her future and do nessasary.

    I know in India or else where one man would have two wifes.One is legally wedded wife and one is not and both women come to some agreement and live.Does your friend wanted that kind of setup.
    first she needs to figure it out what exactly going on herr husband.being sensitive and getting afraid of life not going to work here.
    Intial phase may be attractive,after a while they both may be get into fight and or that other women may find some one else.We dont know what going to happen in future.
    first thing she need to insist her husband to show the divorce papers,if not then he need to start the process and your friend need to take nessasary legal action on her husband.

    Other IL's can guide you more but you need to provide like when was his first marraige happened and they seperated and when your friends got married .
     
  2. SriVidya75

    SriVidya75 Platinum IL'ite

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    Madhu

    If his second marriage with your friend is registered and the first marriage divorce has not happened yet, its a big crime. Your friend can drag him to court and make his life hell. she can consult a lawyer who can give better suggestion on how to deal with this issue

    Now coming to your friends marriage, many a times damage is not about who did what or what happened, its aobut how we react to it. Your friend not confronting her husband, being meek and weak, not ready to take action on all this would actually make her situation worse down the line. Marriage needs two people. What if your friends husband only comes forward and serves her divorce papers? she wont stand any option at that time isnt she?? She has to be strong , atleast for the sake of their kid, and give him a stern firm warning on what he is doing and how she wont tolerate it. All this while his behaviour towards his mom and his wife is clearly showing that this guy is just a big bully. If she doesnt confront him or take action , she cant make the situation any better, rather she has to see the other woman also coming to her house daily and she wont have a say in all this..just because your friend is trying to close her eyes to keep this marraige intact for the sake of society.
     
  3. laamadhura

    laamadhura New IL'ite

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    Dear,

    First of all i will clear your doubts.He married that girl before 10 years.She seems to be his relative.She had only mother.He married her without knowing that she was in love with some one else.Within three months after marriage she left him and went with her boyfriend.But this person was in full affection with her.So he was very much vexed and he left to UAE along with his friend.He came back to India in 2008 only.He joined the same office of my friend.They were working together and after hearing his fb she fell in luv with him.At that time to defend himself he said that he had divorced that fist wife.But we cannot blame him also.He was very lovable and caring to my friend before she went to her mom's place for delivery.Even after Baby's birth also he came to Chennai once in a fortnight.Things were good before that lady came and met him.Now too he is not hurting her or abusing her,but only ignoring her by all means.He is not ready to face her directly.He tries to escape seeing her by all means.

    My friend is not willing to live along with that lady also living with him. but want to bring him back from her.She feels that her husband has been fully covered by that lady through her emotional drama in her absence.
    She told that now she had moved through her higher official for giving him the same shift as hers from now on.And also planned to bring her mother in law back home from her mom's place.He had snd his mom to her own mom's place having some fights with her.I think She might get some time to talk with him this week.
    Will surely upload his reaction next week.

    Luv,
    Madhu
     
  4. laamadhura

    laamadhura New IL'ite

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    Friends,

    First of all thanks for your suggestions and support.Now the situation has come in control a bit.But now have wrk piled up to do.Will Computer Typing the entire story some time later.Anyways thank you very much once again:thankyou2:

    Luv
    Madhu
     

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