My life is crumbling!

It doesn't matter whether he is having affair with her or not. The point is, if you do not want him talking to her, he should STOP no matter what. I can't understand why he would do something that is making YOU, his wife, so uncomfortable, just to maintain a hi/bye relationship with your friend. Tell him once and for all to back off from the friend. He needs to stop contacting her. If he asks why, just tell him it makes you uncomfortable! That should be reason enough!

p.s. Priya, just read your reply that you have already sorted the issue out with your hubby. He handled it right.... by agreeing not to call up your friend like that anymore. And you handled it right by being honest and telling him that their communication was making you uncomfortable. Good job.

 

Priya, you did the right thing by having a word with him and telling him you are uncomfortable. I am sure he would reduce/stop contact after this.

I do not agree with ASG, especially after 10 years of being married, you both would have formed a commitment and unspoken loyalty. You telling him to STOP is only going to flare things up. Tomorrow for a silly thing if he says STOP talking to your near and dear, you should be prepared to stop talking to them. Anyway, just my opinion that if he is gonna stop anyway, why do you have to be the bad and come across as a dictator? All in all, I am glad that you have sorted this out.

 

:wowFinally one happy ending in the relationship forum...

All of these problems wouldnt have arised if you would hve learnt to trust the man in ur life. I know being on this site is still great for most of you, but why does one not realise that while reading and giving solutions to other member, one does not hve to create the same situation in your family life....
summary...its always easy to give advice to others...but how many of us actually implement on the same advice.

 

Your life is not crumbling if you sort it out with your husband.

As a wife, you have the right to know what your husband is doing as it is his right too to know what his wife is doing/feeling. Hiding things from each other would mean you are not yet husband and wife.

Sit with your husband on a quiet afternoon and tell him what you feel. Discuss things out threadbare. And also spell out the consequences if each one has things to hide.

There is no perfect situation - not even in a marriage. Unconditional loves are an exception and they are very rare. If yours is an unconditional love you wouldn't care what your husband is doin - you would love him allasame.

It is an understanding with different conditions set out on each other. Gives and takes are a precondition to life.

Sort it out with him and make your move

 

hi priyag
rightly as i said your life was not crumbling. so in future dont panic and jump to conclusion. there is always a way out for everything and anything in this world and it is upto us which way we are goin g to go.