Separation Anxiety?

ramya, of all the places i read,they say make sure the baby knows u are leaving....keep doing it for a while,till it becomes a routine for her.they say never simply disappear...heres more

Always say goodbye. Kiss and hug your baby when you leave and tell him where you're going and when you'll be back, but don't prolong your goodbyes.

• Always say goodbye: Part 2. Resist the urge to sneak out the back door. Your baby will only become more upset if he thinks you've disappeared into thin air.

• Keep it light. Your baby is quite tuned in to how you feel, so show your warmth and enthusiasm for the caregiver you've chosen. And don't cry or act upset if your baby starts crying — at least not while he can see you. You'll both get through this. The caregiver will probably tell you later that your baby's tears stopped before you were even out of the driveway.

• Once you leave, leave. Repeated trips back into the house or daycare center to calm your baby will make it harder on you, your child, and the caregiver.

ramya,thankfully DH will be working from home, but i still wonder how she wld be without me....my work hours are crazy too!:hide:

 

Ramya,

I get up by 7.30 am give DD a bath then play with her, give her b/f and then give her a tight hug. I take her in my arms as if I am taking her to office she gets bluffed then I quickly say I will come in the evening and she agrees and says ta ta. You can also show her favorite toy and play with her before leaving so that she is happy then.

Ramya DD does search for me on and off, thank god she does not get up coz I quickly nurse her. The weather is getting a bit cold her, I presume that could be the reason of her getting up frequently yesterday as we were just below the fan.

All sleep tantrums will continue till three years from the feedback I get from experienced mother in my family and here, so Hang in.

 

Ramya,

Didn't you read the link from Baby center I posted in my earlier reply??

That has got good tips of when and what to do while leaving for work..

 

Ramya, cant help much, but i have same suggestions again, this looks like separation anxiety to me, more than sleep issue. If you have ruled out things like - tummy bug, teething, new milestone, stranger anxiety, then it is separation anxiety. Carry her all the time when you are at home, hugging, cuddling, playing together, all makes the baby happy. Before sleep, try to spend 1hr with her, playing and carrying. If you are not doing massages, try them too, that has a skin-skin contact, babies would feel a lot letter mentally this way. My DD had this issue when i was working then, i used to be back home by 7pm, do nothing till 9pm, but to spend time with her, massage her, bath, feed, play and then lul her to sleep. If at all i come late, or attend a phone call, talk to mom, DH, etc, she would do the same whimpering episode in the nights. She was fine when i was away, mornings too she never cried when i waved bye, when evenings she expected every min of my attention.

 

When you're anxious about something (work, relationship or exam), it can help to comprehend what the worst end result could be. Even if it goes terribly wrong, chances are that you’ll live! Sometimes the worst that can occur is a panic attack. Avoiding fear is not a solution to anxiety. Each time fears are faced, it becomes easier to cope with the next time they strike. In the end they are no longer a problem. The fear will flee the more you chase it.

 

Hi Suman...
Though this feedback is very late... I would like to put my two cents here I think your leaving her has psyched her so when you put her to sleep sing lullaby or talk something or even better tell story though baby may not understand but it will just assure her that you are with her.....