Romance Means....

Vysan · Aug 31, 2007

rajmiarun said: ↑

What does romance mean to you??

Often people complain about their spouse or lovers being unromantic.:-( Romance is always painted with moon light walks and candle light dinners. To all the teenagers out there, I am sure I have missed the beach walk too.

Many grow up with only these two components as the only stipulation for romance. How many relationships are flushed down the drain due to this fallacy :bangcomp: ? It’s very sad to see few good relationships fading out.

Let’s see romance from a different perception.

Can we consider the following points for the definition of a romantic person (for both sex):

Remembering your birthday, anniversary, first date..

O.k. lets trap this too, a beach walk on a full moon day, candle lit dinner

Remembering your likes and dislikes and getting gifts for you.

Remembering your wants and gifting you with it. (Its not necessary that a person can immediately buy things for you).

Hi Mals,
True this is what every other woman want for and long for not just all the above just for personal pleasure or just like that but I had wanted all this from my spouse or just one simple thing that I want to show off to all that my husband is a romantic person. :bangcomp: But it has never happened all these 10 years. Obviously I fight with him for not giving me these pleasures.

Now comes the real cake…….

But here is all it happens:

Reading your mind before your speak.

Yes he reads my mind in whatever be the situation. When during fights he counters me with apt answers and when I am happy he joins the happiness with words.

Realizing you are in trouble or worried (without you broaching the topic)

He sees my face and lends me his shoulders to lean on.

Calling to cheer you up ,knowing it would not be a great day for you (some superfluous visitor, sullied chores you have to do).

Does this on all days whenever we have had a fight in the morning before he is off to office.

Suddenly joining you for lunch without informing you

This happens very often

Wiping your unseen tears

Standing tall as an Oak tree behind you

Holding you, loving you unconditionally, being with you from far and near

Working hard to drive away your fears

All these he does it as he is my best friend.

Working hard to match your taste (not compulsory, rather not required, both of you can have your individuality but still working hard)

He never objects or criticises my tastes in cooking or in decorating for that matter be it anything and he gives small suggestions that help me make the best.

Sending e-cards, emails, sms’s saying “love you”, “miss you”, etc… even when in office or far away…

He never does that but it is me who does that (he will not reciprocate which I am used to)

Wearing your favourite colour shirt or blouse

I do that too wearing his favourite colour dress (as most of the dress he gets me are of the shades of his favourite colours)

Being with you during all trials

Accepting you unconditionally

These two are true to the core

Takes you by surprise by booking air / rail / road tickets to spend some cozy time with you.

No way

Helping in your daily chores

What is the meaning of that was his question but now after these years of marriage he has accepted the fact that the house will be in harmony iff he also helps

Not ridiculing you for your short comings rather helping you to achieve your goals.

Not saying, partaking or sharing anything with you but still being there for you at all times.

He helps me realize where I have gone wrong and help me correct myownself.

Not in good terms with you but still cannot live without you.

I will change that a bit "Fight a lot with you but still cannot live without you"

We fight a lot but still we cannot live without each other.

Accoding to me romance is something which you give and you get.
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Hi

It is great list.........

Oooooooooooopppps..
When am I going to learn all these......

Great...

Veda

malspie · Aug 31, 2007

Vysan said: ↑

Hi

It is great list.........

Oooooooooooopppps..
When am I going to learn all these......

Great...

Veda
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Hey Veds,

Better learn fast... Common... A warm hug also matters............... Its there in the list........... hi hi................

malspie · Aug 31, 2007

rajmiarun said: ↑

Hi Mals,

I was dogmatic, I was demanding, I was complaining and compelling. But time and his sheer love for me and for the kids changed my attitude but still a bit of such remains in me I think.

Infact the fight we had today morning too had all these. I want him to help me clean the kitchen table in the night as both my kids need me to put them to sleep. They just play and play with him if he takes them to sleep. I tell them a story or at least lie with them with a book in my hand, they hug me and then go to sleep. After that, that is after lying in bed for close to 20 mins or so I just have the energy to change to my nightee and it has been for close to 6 months I have been asking him to do that particular help for me. You know what he will say the everyother morning that he will do that, that night, but till date it has never happened and I clean it in the mornings before starting to boil the milk (so irritating to see the kitchen table like that every morning), or after putting the kids to sleep when I see that he is also fast asleep I clean the kitchen table.

Ha ha ha that was the main reason for today morning's fight. I told him that unless and untill he is helping me around he cannot and shouldnot expect me to keep the house clean(though I keep it clean as I am a work from home woman).
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Very easy to tackle. Actually, the fights have sent the magic of the couple in air... Bring the magic back. Tell him with love he will do it. No man has turned down love. Men also need to be cared, loved, pampered, hugged, appreciated just like us. When me make a noise about it they start hiding their feelings from us. He will do it for you. Clean the table after you put the children to sleep. And let him know that you are tired, rather exhausted. He will realise it. He loves you. He will then do it. Men are like children, shout and they get adamant. be calm, be cool, he will do it and I am sure.. Believe in me. Change your approach.. You may get angre on me. But its true. Your shouting has made him adamant. Trust me........

malspie · Sep 3, 2007

Kavta said: ↑

It is true. I totally agree with Mals.Earlier I used to shout at him fr getting works to be done but nothing happened in positive. I changed my approach after noticing many other couples ..getting their work done in a very cool n calm manner. So I started the trick on my husband and believe me it really works.
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:clap :clap :clap :clap :clap :clap :clap :clap :clap :clap :clap :clap :clap :thankyou2: . Hey Kavta, u hv understood the tricks............

Murugesan · Sep 3, 2007

Exactly, well said...........

Jananikrithsan said: ↑

Simple pleasures,
stolen glances,
holding hands,
ice cream in the rain,
messaging when not expected,
being there alaways,
saying it with silence,
loving you without words and forever,
worrying about you when you are late,
caring when sick,
correcting you when wrong.
Hey, Mals I can go on, but I have jotted down what came to my mind first.
Love is that magic four letter word with myriad definitons!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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ayeshanaaz · Sep 7, 2007

Romance to me is:

To spend the whole sunday with my husband, since both of us are really tied up for the entire week.

To apply Henna designs on my hands every now and then, because he likes to search his name hidden in the designs on my hands.

To go all the way to the supermarket to buy his favourite snacks, and see the smile on his face when he opens the packs.

To close my eyes and just rest my head on his chest and play with the hair on it. His warmth, his smell......Iam already in another world.

Many Many more................ I Thank god each & every day of my life to have me given such a wondeful person to share my life with....

Love
Ayesha

malspie · Sep 7, 2007

That was very romantic Ayesha... Good going.. :tongue

aishu22 · Sep 7, 2007

Hi Mals and others,
Great discussion going on.......Great Romantic thoughts..
Let me punch in what i think tobe romantic....

1.Saying a hi to me when i come back home exhausted after a long day at work and offering me a cup of coffee...

2.After every Quarrel we have, not waiting for me to ask sorry, but he volunteers+ a bonus of hugs tooo..(my hubby really does it...)

3.Even if hes in office having a ever busy day with loads of meetings, still finds time(the call will be less than 30 secs, trust me ) to check if i had food on time.

4.Shares every joyous and saddest moments he had encountered.

5.When he gently embraces me and says you are my sweetie pie...(he keeps telling it when i feel down ).

I'm fortunate enough to find a person who does all this..