The Athimber, Jijaji, Relationship With Saali, Machini

The athimber relationship:
Ever heard of this ofcourse u all must had, may be the name is different, jijaji, or jiju or athim and so on, but I have found this relationship is greater than anything, as they are the eldest, like only a elder sis’s husband gets this title, a lot of burden on his shoulder if he has many saalis.
The hindi version they used to say a man with saali is like having aadi gharwali, that is she will take care of him, in all ways except the bed. Like wise when my husband arrived home both my sisters were mad at him, they used to take so much care, he felt himself top of the world, if sathya used to wash his clothes and iron and not allowing him to do any work, all the things were taken care of. How about a small cup of coffee, and athimber is glad that his saali remembers.

The food section oh! Don’t mention the athimber’s favourite is done at home, and my husband loved applam which used to be ready, and many, all fried stuff would be made as tiffin. Even my mother fell for his charm the first son-in-law has a special place in the house, like the first child. So semiya upma with murungakka sambhar and he would praise her to heaven. He was a foodie all the way, every day his fresh purchase of vegetable is an example to that, and planning the lunch and dinner was all his section, so much in detail that only keerai molagootal will go with vazhakkai kari or vendakkai pachadi and so on. So it was very easy to please him, as he has already chartered out what he wants…

Even our honey moon trip to thirupathi if u may say so not without the saalis, funny my honey moon was more of deiviga shetram from trichur to chowthanikarai and guruvayur, accompanied by my mom. Being the first borns has its own trivials to be considered.

Going to commercial street,[famous shopping street in Bangalore] even before I could go, the athimber would had invited his saali’s after all he cant go out without them, asking for this and that eatables and so many, he loved crowd always, even my father krishnamoorthy fell for this, would love to be treated for a nice full course meal from soup onwards his favourite..

The minute athimber arrives from kolkata my second one sathya will be ready there. While he opens the package she will take the first pick of saree that he has got, only then I get to take, this is the power she has on us, very demanding, what athim nothing for me? Is the opening statement, and he would compile to all her wishes…

Even when my great man made a trip directly from sabarimala to his mom in law’s place the saali’s took such good care. I started envying him, my what charisma he could spread, even till date my sisters both cannot forget him, for every thing they will remind me, athim used to love this illey…

It was my husband who took up all efforts to conducts sathya's wedding as my father was suffering from cancer and was unable to do anything, and doctor's also advised that he had not much time in this world. So it was athimber here again and sathya's in law's were also all praise for his efforts..


My husband was so close to these sisters, when he corrects the sari on from behind lower and asking them to use perfumes and spraying it for them, he used to ride their husband’s with jealousy… regards sunkan


i know many of u will hold such memories, would be glad if u can share here..
By the way my son in law giri has a pang that chitra does not call him athimber but jiju..

 

hey sathya,
i envy da, in my memories this relation is so related to u all, that mine falls short here, untill he himself were to come down and tell..still u bring the tear in my eye too. love aks

 

ah sridhar,
all relation has two sides of it, but i must tell u, u have missed out on this, it is a very very loving one, and as the wife stands looking at her siblings falling one on other for attention and the man enjoying it, nothing can be said, like how u said, i never had to pray to god as i knew my man will not misbehave with my sisters...and vice versa.. any relation kept healthy will remain so, after all what are we human if not for these relations...regards sundari

 

dear vemul,
just next after my husband and my sister i have another relationship that is beautiful to see, yes that of my elder son in law and chitra my second daughter he is a great rescuer for her, the minute she says she is in trouble he can put her mind to peace in a few session of talks, and i know what it is genuinely so.

agreed every man has the urge but there are some men who are above this and realise what relationship is all about and their responsibility even today my sis sathya who is a member here if she sees this writing of yours might take offence, so i am among people who know what they are and to whom, it is one of the closest relationship, when both know their limits, and can be envious given the situations, even now after his death of many years flowers will be on his photographs when ever she is in bangalore...

men of these calibre do leave behind panging salis..sunkan