Thank you sir. Konja naala very depressed. Indusladies is really a stress buster for me. Thank you IL.
In that you try reading humorous anecdotes which always stand as panacea. You have pomegranates. Mere skinning and taking out the ARILS itself Would burst depression and set right the mood. Please try. By way of suggestion, I can recommend browsing forums which provide humour by way cartoons as in @Mistt Smile :) & Pay In A Different Coin
Happiness is a topic very close to my heart . People take many years and sometimes their whole lifetimes to figure out what makes them happy - truly happy. I knew before marriage what made me happy. However, after marriage and kids the same set of things don't bring me happiness. At the end of the day, I believe that happiness is a journey and not a destination. Also, it is a state of your own mind and inner subconscious. Also, as far as my experience goes, neither money, nor power or success can give long lasting happiness. Sure they can all give momentary highs but not true happiness. That is something that you are in control of. What then is supposed to give long lasting happiness? #1 is close relationships. Man is a social animal and we are engineered to have a support system and network, have confidants in whom we can trust and vent. All the money in the world cannot buy us this. #2 on the list is having deep, meaningful conversation with others #3 Being content with what you have #4 Having gratitude towards those who saw the potential in you when noone else did You never find a happy life, rather you build it. And last but not the least surround yourself with people who push you to be better. No drama or negativity. Just positive energy and encouragement; no jealousy or hate. People who bring out the best in you, and in turn themselves. That being said, Im still figuring out what makes me happy !!
You put it without mincing words. I am sure all participants would relish your views including OP @anika987 . Regards.
What makes you truly happy? The premise of the question is that "Something" makes us happy ! The truth is that - Nothing "makes" me happy I choose to BE happy At every moment in my life, I CHOOSE to remain in the happy state of mind Keep smiling HR
This answer is like “ bolt from blue” . Sure it is jack-pot FB deserves the monthly accolade if any by website creator @Induslady . Thanks & Regards.
@Mistt, thank you for pointing out my error. My wrong post is now removed here and posted at the right place.
@hrastro, Perfect answer. Worldly happiness is derived by the mind by stroking the ego and sufferings by blaming the world. Both are two ends of the oscillating swing and the mind stays in them only for a temporary period. The stable mind that achieves equanimity explores the inherent Anandamaya Kosha and finds ways to remain in that state. For that it had to purify itself from the vagaries, eliminate unwanted desires, remain detached by living in the world but not of the world. It is that state in us that instigates us to aspire for happiness so that eventually we will find that is inherent nature of each one of us. Dropping the past impressions and the present inhibitions is needed for the mind to see that pure and unsullied consciousness. Overcoming the mind’s vagaries is the effort needed in our life time. Life flows like a stream between the banks of worldly pleasure and pain. If it stay it’s course unaffected by these banks, it eventually merged with the Ocean of Love.
Wow @Viswamitra ji I could give infinite examples of what I do everyday to be happy - but you have written it in an abstract way summarised beautifully for anyone to follow ! It is not easy. It is a journey to travel on, it is a process to churn the mind - to make that choice and to be in an unaffected state of mind. Maybe 10-15 years ago, while still in my 20s-30s, raising a young kid it used to be an effort because there are 1000s of things that go wrong when kids are around. Sometimes I used to take a couple of hours to get to equanimity, sometimes I needed to sing some song out loud to get the stability, sometimes I would escape with a book and sometimes I would spend time with some wise person to reach the state! But I would identify my disturbance, make the choice to take action to come to my normal "happy" state. Even now it is not that I dont get affected, of course I am human, I have a family, friends, work, society and face the same problems that others face and of course, I do get affected ! But the couple of hours has reduced over time to 1 hour to 15 minutes to 5 minutes to now it is a few seconds! Now there is not a minute in my life that I stop smiling and it is a choice to make every single minute. Keep smiling! HR
