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This is very true. My relatives and teachers all adored me and praised for me whatever I did just because I always got first rank. But at the same time, my sister (even though no one belittled her) felt the burn. She always felt like everyone only liked me but not her. In India, people go over board about education and marks. Thats the sad state of our country.
Same is the case with money/power.

 

Dear Anika,
I do not think respect is earned by our academic excellence or wealth. Respect is earned by the values we follow, how we behave with others, helping others in times of need. If a person whatever may be his degrees or wealth is rude to others are not respected. Many successful people who are respected do not have either academic excellence not wealth . So...do not get disheartend.
Syamala

 

no you are fine. you do not need to prove to them. prove for yourself. a person who is kind will remain kind not matter how you are.

your MIL is not sudha murthy (my idol). who has millions in her account and still is in humble. sorry did not mean to insult.

 

I hope you take this to heart:


We all do this. You do it too. Consciously or subconsciously. Only a Saint would not do this.

One of my co-workers is from South Asian continent. Funny looking short, lost an arm, poor English.

When i first met I grimaced when he would say hello to me. It was the missing arm part that frightened me.

He is respectful, says good morning to everyone

He commutes from 2 hours away, to and from office.

He works his @$$ off getting computer certifications and just completed a Masters Degree in Computer Security

His dedication inspired me to stop crying about things that happened in my life (well for the most part) and resume my computer certification journey (not just acing the exam, but learning the content and applying it to other things)

Recently there was a retirement party. He was busy studying. They were having cake. I cut a fat corner piece of cake with the most frosting and gave it to him. He was surprised and thankful.


It's never too late to start building your life. Soon, you will NOT CARE what other think of you.

 

It is a common thing in this world that if one is soft hearted or kind, people take it as a sign of weakness. It is very rare that a bully would take on someone bold and courageous. Similarly, people pick on those points which hurt us and make us question our abilities, our actions etc. DONT let them have the pleasure of seeing you suffer. You may feel sad, angry, low or whatever....but have a smile on your face and pretend you didnt hear what they said or even ignore all that they said. This will confuse them and they will not know why their actions are not hurting you. Gradually build your courage to stand up to this nonsense talk about high position in career or other achievements.