They Just Wheeled My Dad In

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    @SuiDhaaga,

    You need to have a discussion on post-discharge care with the hospital staff particularly the case manager. Even though the nurses around in the hospital are overworked and have too many patients to attend to, they know exactly what they need to do. When you get home, you are alone with your dad. Even if your dad doesn't like anyone at home, please remember, you have to do what is right for him as it would be difficult for him to see post-procedure care requirements. If you feel there are too many post-procedure care gaps, you need to bite the bullet to take decisions even if your dad is uncomfortable. After all it is for his health to recover quickly. If you feel there are no complicated needs at home, then, you can make a call to discontinue such services.

    How would you guess what are the needs unless you talk to someone in the hospital or to the doctor?
     
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    I will ask what needs to be done at home


    I don't wish to impose things on Dad. Patients feeling effects their comfort and outcomes

    Few of the nurses are Karen's
    Not overworked because they go out of the way to give rude reply and intimidate

    For instance I sit next to.my Dad. If I am.asked to move so staff can do stuff, I move

    This Karen nurse (who was previously rude to my Dad because she does not know the basics of much water is required for a serious medication)

    Was first nice to me and asked me to move from my Dad when she was doing something

    After medicine incident, instead of explaining please move away when i am here so i can help your dad she asks

    Why do you have to sit so close to the patient?


    I answer because he is my Dad

    Then Karen ask why can't you sit on couch?

    I answer because he is my Dad

    Then the Karen days when I am here please move so I can access monitors, etc

    My Dad told this Karen she could have explained in the beginning

    He says (as in joking way) that I should be psychic

    Or rather, patient should be psychic and patient's family should be psychic


    This patient bullying does not help

    He wishes to be independent once we are home
     
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    Now my Dad is getting sonogram

    He is making friendly conversation with the technician from Thailand
     
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    While I am waiting outside while Dad is getting sonigram, Physical Therapist is asking me questions about Dad

    Same questions that caseworker asked me
     
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    Nurses are in their feet 12 hours a day and have an entire floor of patients to manage. It is a very physically demanding job. They may be brusque at times but most of them are very competent and dedicated. They will be quick because they have to move fast between patients.
    Patients are also not always at their best immediately after surgery but they have to follow instructions and take medications. Nurses are trained to keep things moving.If you ask then questions while they are working they may not always give you detailed answers. I wouldn’t call them Karens just because they don’t smile or chitchat.
     
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    So who’s going to be with your dad during recovery?
     
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    I don't talk to this Nurse at all, she is going out of her way to bully.

    I am.letting this glide as long as my Dad gets recovered

    There's similar type bully at my office
     
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    I am
     
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    Anyway she answered my questions based on Dad's concern for when we go home.

    If you are right, ie she is not Karen, I did not return attitude

    If i am right, ie she is Karen, I ignore her and document in case it becomes harm to Dad
     
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    yes at times rarely you will find rude nurses with those kind as you said its better to keep talk minimal...

    i seen some rude once with my baby who use to come to icu. she just dont do anything just go around and chit chat with people.. i use to be very careful when that nurse come in to make sure she is doing all she suppose to do and ask them nicely if anything else need to be as our family is taken care by them.The same nurse came for my baby when we are ready to get discharged in a week or so she was super sweet this time. hahaha

    if we put behind karen thing... glad everything is going great by GOD's Grace.

    As viswa sir said you can discontinue any services if you dont need them but as of now its doctors who suggest what need to be done and all the therapies are going to help him to become normal.you will be send with all the information.... let us know the good news soon..
     
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