True Financial Independence..

Finiancial independence..this question has been beaten to death but am just curious about few things..

It has varied meanings based on each one’s situations and perceptions..

Is everyone really financially independent according to the terms of the society?

Agreed,doctors,engineers and other quite reasonably paid people are financially sound..
What about people who are working in school like after care,tj maxx,target or other jobs which pays a minimum? Maybe few hours..it is not like one can buy a house or car with it..is that still financially independent?

The above jobs do not need a big degree.It does not have prerequisites.Those jobs can be found by anyone at any age.

Next people go on to say that “oh..one should occupy themselves doing something”.Well that is induvidual interests and how they occupy themselves.Personally it is each one’s choice of how they want to live according to their situations..

I read in one article in quora about an woman condemning homemakers as “average non working girls who marries rich men”.That I didn’t understand.Just coz someone does not work outside does not mean she is not smart or hardworking or average.I am sure you must have noticed in your office that it’s not like everyone is above average.She might have talents and smartness which the other person might not possess.This is the same for everyone.

Why I am irritated is I had a talk with my neighbor who recently found a job in school aftercare after 16 years and she is gloating so much that she is insulting women who are at home.She was a homemaker for all these years and indirectly humiliating herself.


She thought I will join her and insult homemakers for fun coz am working now.Nope.I am doing this job quite well but it is not like I feel any different as a person.I was the same person with the same smartness and tomorrow one never knows..

Roles may reverse due to situations.One has to quit to be at home due to personal issues and vice versa..

Sorry to digress..the neighbor was gloating so much about her finance and I do know how much she earns. It is only enough to maybe pay for groceries and misc expenses.Nothing wrong with that but to insult homemakers and thinking I will do the same??


There is a professor back in Chennai (family friend)who is so scared of her hubby that she surrenders all her money to her husband.Why didn’t she quit when she is financially sound?

My aunt lost her husband when she was 35..no education and no support.but her attitude and confidence was amazing.she did not resort to any bad ways! She has meager savings and slowly found a small job and today her son is abroad and earning well. She studied till 12th grade..

The above two cases are god swear true and for sure you guys must have heard stories this
yes it is amazing to earn well and all that..secure feeling but the assumption that a homemaker will be left in the blue god forbid something happens is not always right.These situations can differ from person to person. People are educated or people can find something for themselves and live within their means. Everything also in vice Versa..

Just coz one works in small jobs..it is not like the current homemaker cannot find the same if she has to! It’s not like the above are financially sound and the homemakers are strandard..​

Are everyone who is working truly financially independent?? What is true financial independence..

Also Are people who are working..
is it due to ambitions.
.is it due to the fact they are used to...
Is it coz society expects them to…
Is it for means of living..
Is it extreme boredom..
Is it for peer pressure..

for me ..it was due to peer pressure and could not stick with many jobs coz in the end I was unhappy.Now am in a job which I started out of peer pressure but I am doing it coz am quite good at it..

Am I earning “money”? Yes.

Am I earning “enough money” to be “financially independent “? No

Am I considered a working woman now..yes.

Was I considered a working woman when I was a homemaker despite making all those hot meals,a lovely clean home everyday,all the car cleaning,grocery,laundary,oil change and lot of other misc activities,kids classes….No..

but did I enjoy being at home..yes ..a lot..a healthy,happy and a peaceful home we had..I miss it a lot..

No matter how hard I try..it hurts when someone insults homemakers.even though I know my worth.I know some will say”oh u should know your worth” etc..easy to say but it does hurt a bit when people degrade you..
Like when a woman achieves so much in career and someone comments rudely..one cannot say “oh! I know my worth”..still people feel hurt! We are human after all.. this neighbor really annoyed me sorry guys..

this is not about homemakers vs working woman wars..it is just a curiosity due to my neighbor..life is always like a power struggle sometimes.. very very sorry if I said anything wrong.just jotting down my thoughts..randomly..had to get it out of my heart..

 

Thank you for the unbiased replies..

 

This is the one thing I don’t understand.working woman do it all..

well am a woman who works outside now and yes life is a bit hectic and I manage but..

The point of not about working woman do everything that a homemaker does.

the point is homemaker also works! Maybe I give this..working woman are the most hardworking..kudos.

but..it’s not like homemakers are lazy and don’t do anything.they also work and not watch tv all day or is lazy as many people put it.maybe extra free time for self care,maybe they don’t hire cleaners,maybe they do all the work the hubby does as he is working outside and balance it and nothing wrong with that I feel and it’s not like they are subdued as many people said.they still work but credit are not given. More time for family to relax and maybe little less hectic and less stress.

People hiring cleaners, eating frozen meals or any cut shorts ways are gloated coz they earn money but if a person decides to do by themselves it’s not work..
Another thing is people talk one should work for financial independence.Is everyone working financially independent??

Next people say sense of sense of achievement.Well sense of achievement is in everything..maybe even making a difficult food dish or anything else.It has got nothing to do with working outside.


Everyone’s situation can be different too.

One can’t blindingly put one in a pedestal and others lower..

Is every homemaker lazy or is every woman who works outside really hardworking?? In every sense? And of course vice versa. Why see a very superficial picture and not be very honest to ourselves.

anyways this thread won’t go anywhere and I request admins to lock this thread. Thanks

 

Exactly sir! Well said..