Personality Changes

hi Nandu, While we are addressing Shrav's problem, Id like a few of my inputs here too.. I find totally letting go of social media (like altogether) is so so difficult. What worked for me is to have one of those anonymous accounts where no one of our family or friends follows and just do timepass with it. Ohh its one of the evil time killers too, but I dont know, some weird peace in there.
I love love love doordarshan cartoons. jungle book was originally DD , shaktiman was original DD. Anytime the best. I wish they can play those doordarshan serials also, remember Shanti??

 

Hi social,

My social media is youtube,and ohh i love those doordarshan days dear, alif laila, chandrakanta, jungle book, and the doordarshan cartoons like ek titli, anek titli ya....

I agree with you dear, a friend of mine does the same, she also uses anonymous iser id to login to fb and no one from family and friends know about it.

For me reading and writing, and making time for myself has kept me sane. Also my morning cup of masala chai, long calls with my amma to randomly chat about things, and realise that i am still her baby.

Sometimes i feel that simplicity, and humbleness should be taught more and more to today's parents and children.
That it is ok to not compete with anyone but ourselves.

No matter what, choose kindness because it heals and helps one.

Love
Nandu

 

ahh those masala chais and long calls with mom ..ooh bliss. ! I was exactly the same with my mom. miss those blissful days. I am just hoping and praying every day that I have a daughter too , so will feel less lonely and maybe see her. but well time will tell. Went into a different world and almost hijacked Shrav's thread. !

 

I wish, hope and pray that your dreams come true of having a daughter.

The magic of simple life is this, it transports us to a different and a wonderful life.

Big hugs to you dear

Love
Nandu

 

Hi @shravs3
After reading your post i suggest you the following things:
1) Don't compare your past life with present,In the past you were under shelter of your parents, after marriage responsibilities will get increase one by one and women need to become shelter for her family.
2)check out what all things affecting you,if social media one among don't look at it, everything you see will not be true in social media.
3)Don't overburden your mind and body,do only most priority things only, remaining if possible delegate to someone.
4)First be happy,you have many good things in your life,for instance you are mother of beautiful child, don't think that you will be happy after you achieve something.Being happy will heal your problems.
5) check out any hormone imbalance,you may require some nutrients to stay fit,consult doctor and take something like ensure or protinex.
6)there is something called seed cycling which works for hormone imbalance.Just google about that you will get required information.
7)Don't judge anyone looking at their life style and don't compare yourself with others, everyone have their own stone burden to carry,which we can't see as outsider.
8)spare sometime for yourself,do what you like to do, don't say no time,see where is your time leakage.Add on that time for your self.
9)Always motivate yourself, listen to spiritual speech,or any motivation speech make it as ritual.
10) Exercise for 20minutes choose your time morning or evening.Try to eat healthy, search for recipe in you tube.when you focus on your self to some extent you will avoid unnecessary things going on.This will keep your mind healthy.
11) whomever you consult ultimately it's you who has to stand for your self,and I strongly believe you are much...much... Capable person.Its just matter of time you will overcome this phase.
Take care,Be happy stay healthy and fit.
Regards
Ratna

 

This is not abnormal. Many would be sailing in the same boat.
I think many spouses would fall in this category. Few months after marriage, fault lines (of partner) that were blindfolded come to surface and the other gripped with intolerance and accompanied exasperation it simply stays long.
In the beginning of wedded life an “yes master” then in few weeks or months turned to be a “No master”. A timid wife/hubby in the beginning transforms into a warrior. Their personslity gets interchanged.

During beginning of my career, i maintained myself as a strict disciplinarian - a stiff personality - but after passage of time i found output was quite below normal of that obtained by my predecessors. I discussed with a couple of retired officers from the same chair.

I got to turn over a new leaf. I switched to be a soft man of kind words from erstwhile “roaring lion”.
Then i found outside my office few of my staff were different. It reminded me a tamil adage
பார்த்தால் பூனை பாய்ன்தால் புலி i.e. lamb at home lion at chase.

Personality changes with character(s) one plays or the hat he or she wears. In tamil movie Navarathri the late Thesbian Shivaji plays emoting nine different characters.

Many carry dual or multiple personalities some may even stretch to outlandish degrees. Outside their profession or office, persons would be completely look different. Many smart personalities in office at helm, turn totally different and subservient in front of their spouse as if dancing to the tunes of snake charmer. A person with stentorian voice coming around overseeing staff at work would speak entirely in a meek tone in front of his/her spouse.

A person looking macabre with twisted long moustache might turn with effeminate attributes! A seemingly stingy rude person here might be exuding kindness and generosity at some other place. Time, place (read venue) and the assemblage cause change in type of personality. The only exception for unchanged personality could be the true saints like savants Avvaiyar -not the (ultra)modern ones - and the Almighty!
Sorry for the digression. Thanks for reading this blah-blah.

 

The most important thing is that you have realized and acknowledged it. Getting bitter is the butter for self-slipping.
Managing anger is easy once it is acknowledged.
The moment we step out of our residence, there are temptations at every other step to getting angry. The security guard is late in opening the gate, the traffic is horrific, others do not know how to drive, the parking is full or someone has taken your assigned parking lot, and the lift is not working......... The list is endless. It is up to us to maintain our cool.
I posted this snippet sometime back.

Getting Angry Is Not Bad, Staying Angry Is.