Going Back To India And Living In Joint Family

Not a good idea.
Why would you be dependent financially on inlaws?

 

It's a very general question and the answer depends on many things but it can be broken down into two

Going to India to settle down- No, because I don't like to live there.

Living in with inlaws and BIL - No because that arrangement doesn't work. In my opinion it only works in a business family where finances are joint and that too in very rich business families where everyone has their space and cooks to cook for everyone.

 

Depends on your priorities and your relationship with your in laws and bro in law family.


I come from a joint family and personally cannot even imagine living in that set up due to certain frictions .

Even if they r lovely....distance is always good as there will be some small arguments and u will miss your old independent life..things won’t be the same until you are the kind of person who is so understanding etc..

Why put ourselves in such a situation ? What u r saying does not seem right again in my opinion.

You have a good life and many would like to be in your shoes. My point of view“ don’t change it“

 

Depends on the woman's in-laws and her relationship with them.

In my case, I would do it in a heartbeat. There are many advantages to living in the traditional joint family system.

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then this will not work for you

 

In some joint families in India, some women live like a queen with cook and driver and don’t do anything other than shopping for fun and gossip so it depends on the family situation !!…

 

I would love to live in a joint family. There are many reasons.

My inlaws are God sent angels. They are non interfering very understanding, friendly .

They eat whatever I cook, no demands or complaints from them. In fact they appreciate whole heartedly.

No backbiting to others. If they feel I am wrong they tell it directly to me, it doesn't even go to my husband. We deal it ourselves. In fact many issues which aren't really major have never gone to my husband. Neither I tell him nor they. They are very mature people.


They don't interfere when I discipline my kids nor do they interfere when I have an argument with my husband.

They handle my kids with so much patience and they spend a lot of time with them.

Given a chance I would definitely love to be with them.These days I wish that my girls also should get a family like I got.