In Laws Call Every Night During Initimate Moments.

Hello ladies,

A little insight into the problem.

We are a newly married couple, married 6 months ago. We live in Canada while his parents and family live in India.

Before we got married, his mother was apparently into the habit of calling her son everyday. She would call during her early morning which would be his night, around 9 pm. This seems ok considering he was living alone in the city and she would probably call to ensure he has reached home safely.

Unfortunately she still continues to do the same in spite of the fact that he is now a married man. He comes late from work mostly 10 pm or sometimes even after that.
We sit, talk a bit, have coffee or have dinner. Then the phone rings, his mother. She starts chatting with him, then even asks about my whereabouts too. He soon puts the phone on speaker and I am forced to speak a few words with her.
This lady continues to talk endlessly, we have to tell her ok by ok bye, only then does she budge and puts the phone down.
This is in addition to the video call we have to have with the entire family every weekend. The two of us, his parents, my BIL and my cosister. We are to sit on the couch in front of the camera and talk endlessly for one hour atleast about useless things then say bye. This happens during the daytime for us which is night time for them. So they are done with their days activity while we have just started our day, but we have to put everything aside and talk to them endlessly. Not to forget that even on the nights of those days that we have video calls she calls to ensure that her baby is alive and kicking.

It has annoyed me from the start but now it is getting in the way for me. Last night hubby asked me to go with him to the bedroom so that we cuddle a little before going to sleep. I had household chores to do but agreed to go in and come back later to finish the chores after he had slept. Immediadetly he realised he hasn't called his parents. So he called while we had just got into bed and talked, they asked about me and he was about to put the phone on speaker but i said no. I laid in bed for a few seconds after their call and then walked out of the room. The mood was killed.

The same thing happened a few weeks back. We were already in the middle of it. His phone started ringing. We both ignored it and continued. After 10 minutes or so it rang again. We could not ignore it this time since it was annoying. He spoke on the phone. After that we turned to our sides and slept off. The mood again was killed.

The son is cool with it. It does not seems to affect. He thinks it is his bonafide duty to call his folks every night and let them know of his well being.

Last year this time we were living in different countries, still virtually engaged and communicating virtually. It is at this time exactly and even this day that she had almost broken off our alliance by butting in unecessarily and creating misunderstandings between us. We got back togther by talking it out with each other and giving the relationship another chance.
I don't know why she thinks she is the prefect/monitor of our relationship. We must report to her on our relationship status also about what we do in our daily lives.

Please share your ideas on how to handle the above situation. Just for your knowledge, I don't know if this information is necessary here, we haven't really consumated our marriage yet. It has been mutual, we never wanted to rush into it and now also this nusance. There was just once when he took me to niagrea to spend a weekend but again he kept calling his brother on video call and also his cousin so the mood anyway was not very romantic on that weekend.

 

Thank you all for your replies, I read each one of them.
I was so frustrated that day that I engaged him on the matter that night itself.
Thankfully he took the matter cooly and we agreed that he should finish off the phone business in the sitting room before heading into the bedroom and phone calls from either parents should not be entertained in the bedroom.

For those of you asking why we don't finish the phone business before hitting the bed, here it is
We actually do that but sometimes we they do not answert the call and we leave a messege that everything is ok. But they disregard the messege and still call later and insist to say goodnight to us both while we are laying in bed as if we are brothers and sisters wishing our parents goodnight wishes and kisses.

On the night that I discussed this with my husband this happened too. We called them before going off to bed, they didn't answer and we left a messege. But he put the phone on vibrator and soon after we got into bed, it started vibrating but we both ignored it.

His mother is very nosy, she inquires everything that we do here on a daily basis. She must get a daily report from her son about what I have cooked, what we do etc. She is sitting there in India but her mind is constantly here.

Let's see now how well it works