Trusting Vibes..

SGBV · Jul 3, 2022

anika987 said: ↑

“People are suffering to earn $10 and here you are being a “Vetti officer“
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I work full time, manage home without a maid, and I am a mother of two young & active kids! That being said, I am called "vetti officer" by many whenever I am on-line in social media or create a vlog of special days/events. They say, I must have nothing to do; hence doing all these.
Come on... People will always have some or the other to make you feel guilt of yourself. Don't take them seriously.

anika987 said: ↑

I don’t know if am sensitive or they are rude.I feel i have been treated bad by many people and have been working on myself for years.
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It doesn't matter whether you are sensitive or not, it is important to maintain a balance approach when we talk to people.
I am not sensitive, I crack jokes and takes comments easily. But there are times I feel hurt, and emotional. It depends on your mood, the circumstances in your life etc...
So, it is important to respect others, and be nice!

Be yourself!
I have started admiring the way you are leading your life.
Happy, content and satisfied with what you have. This simple life is the key to happiness!

You give what you have. If you are filled with peace, you give peace to others. If you are filled with happiness, that overflows too. Similarly, if you are filled with negativity & rudeness that is what you can give it to others.

Do not change just because others around you have different personalities. Be YOU! Because you are the best!

anika987 · Jul 3, 2022

SGBV said: ↑

I work full time, manage home without a maid, and I am a mother of two young & active kids! That being said, I am called "vetti officer" by many whenever I am on-line in social media or create a vlog of special days/events. They say, I must have nothing to do; hence doing all these.
Come on... People will always have some or the other to make you feel guilt of yourself. Don't take them seriously.

It doesn't matter whether you are sensitive or not, it is important to maintain a balance approach when we talk to people.
I am not sensitive, I crack jokes and takes comments easily. But there are times I feel hurt, and emotional. It depends on your mood, the circumstances in your life etc...
So, it is important to respect others, and be nice!

Be yourself!
I have started admiring the way you are leading your life.
Happy, content and satisfied with what you have. This simple life is the key to happiness!

You give what you have. If you are filled with peace, you give peace to others. If you are filled with happiness, that overflows too. Similarly, if you are filled with negativity & rudeness that is what you can give it to others.

Do not change just because others around you have different personalities. Be YOU! Because you are the best!
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Well said SBGV
true what you say

nandinimithun · Jul 4, 2022

SGBV said: ↑

I work full time, manage home without a maid, and I am a mother of two young & active kids! That being said, I am called "vetti officer" by many whenever I am on-line in social media or create a vlog of special days/events. They say, I must have nothing to do; hence doing all these.
Come on... People will always have some or the other to make you feel guilt of yourself. Don't take them seriously.

It doesn't matter whether you are sensitive or not, it is important to maintain a balance approach when we talk to people.
I am not sensitive, I crack jokes and takes comments easily. But there are times I feel hurt, and emotional. It depends on your mood, the circumstances in your life etc...
So, it is important to respect others, and be nice!

Be yourself!
I have started admiring the way you are leading your life.
Happy, content and satisfied with what you have. This simple life is the key to happiness!

You give what you have. If you are filled with peace, you give peace to others. If you are filled with happiness, that overflows too. Similarly, if you are filled with negativity & rudeness that is what you can give it to others.

Do not change just because others around you have different personalities. Be YOU! Because you are the best!
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Dear @SGBV you are truly a woman of substance and i love everything that you have written.
There is something magical about you.

Love
Nandini

bmaquarius · Jul 6, 2022

anika987 said: ↑

Some people emit a lot of positive energy.We like them Instantly.

Some people emit a lot of negative vibes.The way they talk,the person they are feels suffocating.

I have a neighbor who is a sweet talker. My gut instinct very strongly says she is fake.Something about her does not vibe with me.

How much can we trust gut instinct?

This is one aspect of my life am struggling with.I have come a long way in my life but am
Not able to build trust in people.

I am very soft-spoken and do not speak up and now only am getting better.

Having been a bullied kid through school ,college and relatives..I feel “Abuse is Normal“.

I don’t know sometimes if I am sensitive or if they are rude.

“I don’t know to clearly identify“.

For eg: My relatives always and many times talk about my homemaker status like the below..

“Always eating,sleeping,enjoying and “vetti “
Vetti means waste

Or

“ You have all the free time in the world and that is why you cook so much“

Or

“People are suffering to earn $10 and here you are being a “Vetti officer“

Another time I had a board in my kitchen to write some kids activities and other stuff..my uncle took the marker and wrote “Monday- Sunday = Free“ and smiled

Apart from that basic teasing About not knowing pinch of money etc

Anything I say they claim that I am sensitive or can’t take a joke.

Last time I cut off relatives coz I couldn’t take the below..

One relative daughter pooped in her diaper when she was sitting next to me.My uncle ,aunt and relatives were like “After seeing your face she pooped“ and laughed.

I thought it was a joke or it is meant to be taken as a joke.so I left it.

However..after 5 or 6 times in various occasions I lashed out coz I finally felt humiliated.

Many other stuff. My mom herself who has been butt of jokes told me am sensitive..I told her finally that she is different and I am different.I am maybe not mentally string like her.

My mom always said I need to see good side to people and let things go..I always have seen my mom adjusting,not speaking up and quiet.I grew up being the same way.it is so hard to break the conditioning.

I don’t know if am sensitive or they are rude.I feel i have been treated bad by many people and have been working on myself for years.

I was told by a well wisher that I am a victim of gaslighting and my reality version is distorted.

I am struggling you build meaningful relationships.Even if someone is nice..am scared to be my usual self .Am nice to them but always maintain a distance.

Am I sensitive or are they rude?Am I assuming they are bullying me?coz u cut them off and my mom is upset about it. If am sensitive or wrong I can always ask sorry.

How do I find the difference between mean and jokes? Can you guys give me tips
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bmaquarius · Jul 6, 2022

I think you need to trust your instincts when it comes to people and situations. You can't really stop people from making assessments or comments about your life..you'll find even in the best if families and friends people stand to be judged for everything they do..so this's normal..only that it depends on how you react to it..stay calm pause to make sure of things