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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by EagerForInfo, Aug 15, 2021.

  1. chanchitra

    chanchitra Platinum IL'ite

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    So , you will have to pay all expenses.
    Will he be doing all household work and take care of kids.
    Why did he leave job suddenly?
     
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    MalStrom IL Hall of Fame

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    Then who’s going to pay for the Tesla?
     
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    EagerForInfo Gold IL'ite

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    I have absolutely no idea. Wife should be the first to know anything in a marriage but I usually have no clue about anything going on in my family . I usually hear things from my friends and neighbors which shocks me. ( at the time I think they are just telling stories but later I find out what they tell me is true ). I heard from my neighbors that we were buying a house 2 years after marriage. Mind it husband didn’t have a job then either. Think it was just 3 months after he got a job.he signed up for a house.

    If I would know or if I can get information from him I would not be posting here on this forum full of strangers ( of course well wishers )
     
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    EagerForInfo Gold IL'ite

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    Think he already paid for it. That’s what boils my blood. He had money to pay for a Tesla but doesn’t have the ability to keep wife safe and comfortable. He did not even buy me food with a newborn baby. Sorry I keep repeating myself but just boils my blood. He could have skipped the Tesla and bought stuff for me. Even a French fries from McDonald’s which is only $1 would have made me happy. Just to know they are thinking of us in a time where we will need help with baby things and we will be hungry due to feeding baby.

    It was a struggle to take a shower too as kids would do naughty things while I was in shower and WOULD NOT sleep either. Just my blood is boiling.
    I don’t know what to make of this.
     
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    Positivity02 Silver IL'ite

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    After reading your threads , I really can't think of one good reason for you to stay in this marriage.
     
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    chanchitra Platinum IL'ite

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    True. Sigh
     
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    lavani Platinum IL'ite

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    At this point, this is an excellent POST for parents looking for grooms or brides for their kids. they should read this and learn how NOT to select a person or what quality should they look for.

    OP not mocking or offending you. Your spouse is very smart. you do realize the courts award alimony to the person who is makes less money or is with kids more time. so if you go to office and he is at home with kids, even though if he does not do work, he can be given primary care if he collects enough docs when he applies for divorce.
     
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    EagerForInfo Gold IL'ite

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    I don’t get it. He said he quit his job. Then again he said they are asking him to go to work in person from this week. So he will not be home on fridays. I know this is a marriage. Not telling the truth is a sure shot reason to get rid of the guy. But what is going on. I would like to get a clear picture of what is happening. He spends days and days and hours and hours on the phone. Can he not take a minute to talk to me in years. He himself separated himself in his room since my son was born saying he’s needs some sleep since he needs to go to work. Now I too and working I handle everything myself. I don’t get it. What the heck does he want. He is the one who treats me like an outsider. He is the one distancing himself. Can anyone recommend a private detective to help me find out what is going on. I just want some mental peace. Even if I divorce him. What the heck is going on and what is he up to. I go to his room and wait for ages trying to talk to him. He acts busy. But he has time to talk to everyone in this world. I just don’t get it. I am more beautiful and more educated than anyone in his family ( at the same time I have no ego. ).
     
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    Don't you have self respect. Why are you clinging on to him
    Sorry . Didn't mean to hurt you
    He wants you to leave. That's why he is behaving like this
     
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    @EagerForInfo I did not want to reply any more, but you quoted my response.

    Please go for a therapist who specializes in PTSD . Spend time with that therapist and then revisit this.

    Other than that, you can keep doing this dance till you die.
     
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