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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by indubalram, May 5, 2022.

  1. mangaii

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    please post your favorites too ! I liked this one. Is this just a dream or does this really happens?
     
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    Definitely happens in many happy marriages.
     
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    Very wise words! Problem is media and some 'modern women' look down on SAHM as weak
     
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    Some SAHM women also look down on working women. "Oh I like to be at home when my kids come home from school." or "I like to make fresh food three times a day. I don't refrigerate food. I cook from scratch. " The unsaid in these comments is the put-down.
     
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    Not this debate again! We’ve beat that horse to death a few times out here, haven’t we?
     
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    Agree with first part that the good things in married life are not shown.

    But can't agree with second part- that a man gave her job. She was selected in that job because of her hard work and talent. An organisation has a job and the employee gives his labour and his ideas to it.

    And about manufacturing gas stove, pressure cooker- there is no reason women cant do it- except since long back, such jobs were reserved for men, and even now, majority of women are not allowed to work. And that man is able to make gas stove because a woman cooks and cleans and looks after his kids at home. We should appreciate men, but lets not talk like we have to be grateful to men for giving us jobs and manufacturing things for us, as if that has something to do with gender.
     
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    In every organization someone has to click "I approve" before an offer letter goes out. Given that most managers are still men (and have historically been men), yes a man gave her that job. Of course, its not the same as giving her a paycheck, which is in exchange for your 'work and talent'.
    I disagree with you, we have to be grateful to many men (and women) including scientists, soldiers etc. The video made it appear it was one way street with men just taking things from her.
     
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    OK new horse to beat. I've been wanting to ask all this since the thread started.

    Watch 40 seconds of the video from 7:00 to 7:40.



    The FIL reprimands the DIL for wearing tight clothes when going out. Is it acceptable for the FIL to say such a thing to DIL?

    He asks her "Would you like it if guys make comments about your dress?" I was like: "Does she like it that FIL is making such a personal comment to her?"

    And the thing that makes me want to throw up is that after putting on that jacket or coat to cover the tight dress, she smiles pleasantly and reminds him about medicines and that the lunch has been cooked. She actually says "Good Day Papaji" before leaving. :yikes:

    I must be old-fashioned. I cannot imagine a FIL making such a comment to a DIL. It means he observed how tight her clothes are. :facepalm: :facepalm:

    If he absolutely must convey that message about her allegedly tight clothes or "where is the dupatta?" to the DIL, he can ask his wife or if she is dead, tell the son.

    In my books, and I already said I am old-fashioned, a FIL does not make such comments to a DIL. :nono: Period. Any arguments like he said it for her welfare, she should treat it like a comment from her father... all are irrelevant.

    Like my dear friend from long ago would have said, "If my FIL made such a comment, I would jump in a well and die of embarrassment."

    It is one thing for FIL to say to DIL, "Why are you wasting time/ money / food?" "Why is breakfast late?" Why is my coffee cold?" "Why going for so many days to your mom's house?" "Why do you want to do job?" "Why are you shouting at kid?" Those are controlling, domineering etc. A comment on the tightness of her clothing is just not done.
     
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