Unable To Get Along With People..

Have you wondered why some have so many people around and many don’t? It does not matter if you are an introvert or extrovert.I personally love people but don’t have many around me.My relative is an introvert but has too many friends.


What could be the reasons?

Let me begin..

1) Being abroad which is not as vibrant or crowded like India could make the missing people factor a lot more.

2) We have limited options when it comes to people especially after certain age and even the surroundings are way quieter.So we “have to “ make do with our limited possibilities.

3) I know we cannot keep finding faults with others but when people backstab or is too shrewd..how can one have a friend relationship with them?

4) Trust issues in my case.My past is stopping me from getting closer to people.

5) Being sensitive is one thing but it is tiresome to just go to a party, listen to people gloat about themselves and then unnecessary intruding and comparisons..

6) Aging.Yes am not a teen anymore where we have more random people to meet and all seem equal.

7) wavelength no match.

8) High egos. It was easier to make friends when younger.

9) People moving out to different states or back to India..tiring to start new relationships again

10) In my case..the physical and mental energy to call people home and take an effort to maintain relationships through phone etc..is less.


People who maintain relationships…

1) my cousin makes a lot of effort by inviting people and keeping contacts.

2) She is an extrovert by nature and loves friends and wants to go out.

3) She hates feeling alone and lonely.

4) She says politics happens and many a times it stresses her but she lets it go or keeps quiet.

So..all in all..I realized I lack friends coz..

1) maybe mental energy is very low.
2) I feel why unnecessary extra politics.
3) trust issues.
4) lack of extra effort.
5) Past trauma and had very bad choice of choosing people as friends.


There are good people around but even if I make an effort,they r nice but probably they also Lack energy or already have a group so as to make new friends.

Sometimes I miss my country just for this..I miss family and the vibrant nature of life..

Anyways..just journaling my thoughts.

Feel Free to share your opinions on how you keep friends and how you guys don’t feel affected when some politics happen.

 

Good question to ponder on..

Sometimes I like to be around people and have fun too..but am probably expecting people like same wavelength.

It does look nice when I see people in a huge group and enjoying..a chance to dress well and have a good break..


However it will be draining without people you cannot connect with

 

Hmm.. well They do look very happy in pics..
Beautifully dressed,happy smiles and with the same group a lot..Infact my cousin looks very happy and she says she can’t even imagine life without a gang..So I felt they must be very happy

 

Well..otherwise why will she hang out with so many people..She has so many friends,outings etc..

Plus I know social media is not all real but..people going out a lot means it should be fun i felt

 

No comparison

just a thought that i might be missing out on lifr