Re Marriage Between Indian Born And American Born People

This is following on from a previous thread. The culture does not matter. I am married to an Indian born and I am brought up in a Western Country. Quite frankly I was a domestic violence victim at the hands of my in-laws who visited here. Even though they are not citizens. And my spouse is in a profession such as his job is to save lives I.e a physician. But to them it was all about money, greed, power , social status, “after marriage dowry”..the mentality and planning of my mother in law who has never worked or seen money. They wanted to quickly retire and sit down on my husband.I had to fight and fight for our marriage. It took a legal step to make him finally change. It has stopped everything. I have had no contact with his parents in 4 years. They won’t be coming back here. I am raising my son as American whereby he has been taught American pride and values of respect and tolerance for all and hard and productive work. Regardless, we are all born free and nobody can control anybody. As per UN declaration of Human Rights. Also..In all Developed countries..don’t know about developing..forced servitude is illegal. If done in a vehicle I.e forced to drive in-laws around ..like a driver ..results in loss of drivers license. People don’t realize. To serve somebody is to say you are inferior to somebody. Like a servant. It’s not humane. These crazy people who are so much lazy even wanted to manipulate their grandchild into serving them by claiming they are dependent. Child labor. It’s sickening.

 

People forget to separate Culture from Law. Satyameva Jayate - that’s the National motto of India. The truth alone I.e the law triumphs. I just want to give hope to all the ladies in hard situations. The patriarchy and elders respect is just a way for them to throw tantrums to get what they want. The actual Indian culture is Vasudhaiva katumbakum - respect all humans. The Upanishads tells what the real culture is.

 

understood..just know in other parts of this forum such as issues with in-laws there are many ladies struggling with this same issue and similar things happening. Each persons journey is different. All I feel is that humanity is most important than culture. If this upsets anybody I apologize. Maybe it’s the wrong board to post on.

 

Oh no! Not at all. I am only responsible for my happiness. I was strong enough to fight back. I have my beliefs but I am not a person who forces my beliefs onto others. It is more so to give hope to others in this situation. I see a lot of beauty in Indian values that sometimes are forgotten by the people who use position and power in marriage to hurt others. As I mentioned before - each has their own journey. If you don’t live with somebody you are not in a position to judge them.