Dear @anika987 I am not on any social handles, i found that either i dont belong there or those social sites arent for me..... Irrespective of this, if i have continued with a lie it is that, my friends feel that i focus a lot on cooking and know lot of recipes, in reality i dont know much i cook the same safe fool proof dishes that my family loves.... I tell my friends that 8 hours of sleep is a must for me in reality i can do with 4 or 5 hours of sleep, i love reading and looking uo for articles, learning words.... I am happy with myself, another lie that i am happy with company.... Hmm i am happy with my own company and like minded company... Hugs Nandu
Even I love my own company..just like you. Especially during winter times,I make for myself crispy bajjis, hot chai and cover myself with a blanket and watch my favorite movie That is ultimate hapiness..If there is good company,great! else also I feel good being on my own..
Wow, chai, bajjis and blanket, instead of movie i will have a book with me... Maybe we should meet up once
i was also like this earlier..was perfectly happy reading a good novel or watching movies all by myself..have spent my school and college days as an introvert with some close friends. But now I feel the need for some good friends. The pandemic has made me realise what i missed. When situation becomes normal in future i want to have a good social life and catch up with all my friends.
I love to be alone reading the whole day. I am not active on social media though I am forced to be on WhatsApp groups due to my kids' school works. I don't take any tension or stress. I go with the flow most of the times.( I tell my husband why should two people think in family. One can think, other can enjoy. You can't enjoy like me so I stopped thinking. ) I don't like to attend functions nor dress up for parties so i find reasons to avoid them. I have few good friends whom I can count upon so in regular touch with them. As couple myself and husband give a lot of personal space to one another . We sit in the same room for hours together without disturbing other person. Acquaintances call me boring sometimes but I don't bother. As long as I am happy nothing matters.
am glad to know there are people like me too..I used to feel different but now I also have people with similar interests as me.
One can’t be telling truth, only truth and all l the time truth. Dark truth is opposite of white lie . Truth can vary depending upon time, persons and situations. I act poor fearing others lest might be tempted to ask loan from me. I pose as if I have no savings so that others would be happy! I act as happy I am so that spouse would be happy I lie to teacher I had Nature’s call to buy a toffee & peanuts I lie to daughter & son, lest they would take me to specialist. I lie to spouse I did but I shall be doing it now. I lie on mobile am on drive I lied to mom am returning from college but it was from matinee cinema hall I lie to impress so that I get better choice I pose as rich so that salesman show the best I boast as rich so the shop staff bows I park car at a distance so that I haggle for price measured by hand in flower stall I got to be a hypocrite & charlatan ...... A young mater seeking admission in school with her kid was travelling in a bus. A senior lady by window was next. Tickets - tickets - conductor clicking his punching machine approached her she said one ticket to “Xavier school”. “ what about ticket for kid” “ she is not yet five” In The school - interview. As soon as she entered with kid, surprised to see the senior lady at seat who sat next to her in bus. Interview began with age of kid. “ your baby had completed five?” “ yes Mam” “ you are lieing. In the bus - to conductor you said she is not yet five” ...
My problem is that I don't ask for help easily so from the outside my life seems perfect and well-balanced! Like @Rihana said the other's perception of my life is different from my own day-to-day struggles. I always help as much as I can without expecting things in return. I never asked my parents or siblings for help when money was tight so they think I never have/had financial difficulties and they don't think twice before asking for help from me. I never asked my parents to come and help during my deliveries so everyone thinks it was a piece of cake and sometimes will say that your babies were easy, or you are strong, you could handle it. I don't complain about life in general (health issues, workload, etc.) so everyone thinks I have none of those issues . My family thinks that I travel all the time (pre-pandemic days) and have fun exploring places while in truth a lot of travel is work related. I do keep a day to explore the place if I am traveling but it is not like they envision it. I am on FB and Twitter but I don't feel compelled to post pictures. I hardly post anything anymore. I follow a few groups on FB and usually check for updates. I know my perfectly balanced life from the outside is just as messy as anyone else's but people have their own views and I am not correcting them .
