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How Many Dils Massage Their Mil's Legs?

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by AditiShining, Sep 8, 2021.

  1. AditiShining

    AditiShining Bronze IL'ite

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    Wow, my MIL is an angel compared to yours. I should be more grateful to her. I should press her legs happily.

    Even if your MIL was so rude, you still touched her feet and massaged her legs daily?
     
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    Ria84 Bronze IL'ite

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    It depends, if you both love each other and she considers you as her own , then u would gladly do it and in return she would gladly help you.

    But in most of indian household, dil is there only for house chores, cooking, cleaning, doing seva to the inlaws and husband even though there are hale n healthy and can do it themselves. The dil is taken advantage of. If you do everything to them, they start expecting it everyday.

    Only do how much you can.
     
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    sandhya2020 Silver IL'ite

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    Yes, I touched MIL's feet and she made me touch SIL's feet too. Funny thing is SIL's children are not even told to do namaste to me. Nor does SIL do to my elderly parents. She was not happy that I touched feet with fingers, she scolded me and made me touch SIL's feet with my head.
    Such people are never satisfied, the more soft you are the more they try to push your boundaries.

    Those days my husband did not know how to handle- so I had to put up with everything. He is an extremely good person , but was always emotionally blackmailed by his mom to be rude to me. Still he understood and told me not to massage their feet as he felt they want it out of ego and he did not like it . So I did not do that, and just avoided that topic.

    If my MIL had any real health issues , I would have pressed her legs too during health issue.
     
  4. AditiShining

    AditiShining Bronze IL'ite

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    Touching SIL's feet with head? That's too much. Are you from north India? Did your MIL ask you to massage SIL's legs as well?

    Actually my MIL doesn't have health issues, just her legs hurt and she complains.
     
  5. sandhya2020

    sandhya2020 Silver IL'ite

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    Like prostate fully , and head should be at her feet.
    No, it's not common in our community at all, it's just how people push boundaries when you do everything they say.

    MIL just wanted me to massage her legs everyday .Funny is that she had fought with her own MIL and moved out of marital home with husband in first few years of marriage and lived nearby. And my husband and MIL often have arguments that my MIL did severe medical neglect to his grandma(her own MIL).
     
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    abc00 Gold IL'ite

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    Any topic related to MIL ends up on a comparison. Please don't do this. I find many ladies comparing their MIL to others and feeling happy for what they have. This is not the right thing ,IMO. You count your blessings on your own terms/happy state and not on others miseries.
     
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    AditiShining Bronze IL'ite

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    Such hypocrisy. Did your MIL clearly tell you "you will have to massage my legs everyday"? Does she still live with you?
     
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    chanchitra Platinum IL'ite

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    This is crazy.
    Hope you stopped all this nonsense from the beginning
     
  9. WannabValerie

    WannabValerie Silver IL'ite

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    Heh...
    I dont even message them regularly... leave alone massage.

    Your MIL seems to be nice... its ok to be nice with nice people :)
     
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    WannabValerie Silver IL'ite

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    Wow so much of a mean women but she thinks she is above all beings... narcissist

    She must be worshipped by all yet she has no obligation to have minimum care towards her own mil or dil or for that matter anyone else.
     

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